Just joined, trying to learn more about my INFP type. Fellow INFP's help?!

Ok, let me first start off by saying i have read into these forums before and today I decided to join, hopefully to get a better understanding of my type. I first got into the Myers-Briggs a couple years ago. I obsessed over it. It helped me realize many things about myself. After awhile I stopped reading about it, but recently I have started again, and hoping other infp's(who may be more knowledgeable with this) who could help out.

Ok, so i'll start out explaining a bit who I am.

I am a 23 year old male. I have a decent enough job in healthcare where i make the average wage around 40k. I have a wonderful girlfriend and we rent a small house. On the side, I am a musician(infp. go figure, right?) I've been somewhat successful at music as well, having recently toured with a major label band, 10 Years. (they do a song called "wasteland" that everyone seems to know lol.)

But i'm here to wonder if other infp's go through the same things as i do.

This paragraph comes from a forum in typologycentral.com

The topic - "what does an unhealthy INFP look like?" I often catch myself being like this.

"insanely moody, difficult or impossible to reason with, extremely defensive & sensitive, have very poor communication & social skills, self-absorbed, cynical, live in a filthy mess of chaos, be obsessed with minor details they've blown out of proportion, passive-aggressive, have an explosive temper (maybe even violent), a major detachment from reality, seem confused & lost in life, be withdrawn, rebellious, depressed, have an inferiority complex, seem arrogant as a defense, and may isolate themselves from people. There might be substance abuse also. "

If you're an infp, do you catch yourself like this from time to time?


I guess what im getting down to is that (after reading up on INFP's) it's sort of a burden to be an infp to me. I see friends who seem to be able to go out and forget about their lives for the weekend and have fun, but I am constantly feeling/thinking about my life.


Thanks

Welcome to the forum and sorry since I don't have any insight on the not being INFP part. I would suggest finding out what is bugging you in real life or if there is some event that affects you rather then just looking at what an INFP is like when angry or distressed. Thats all probably true but you should look for the cause to find a solution. I also suggest you check out the advice forum or INFP forum to see if there is something there that can help you. Best of luck. :)

alright thanks!

Dude you're 23. OF COURSE there will be more to your life. You're a talented guy, I'm sure you'll find it.

It's pretty awesome that you toured with 10 Years. Wow.

Welcome to the forums.

You might want to check the enneagram tests also. You sound like a type 4.
Lot's of helpful information on this site, to help you be all you can be. Enjoy! :)
4 - Enneagram Type Four: The Individualist

Welcome to the forum

Thanks alot for that link! I think i am a 4 or maaaybe a 9. I got a 4 on the test though.

Originally Posted by acf513

Thanks alot for that link! I think i am a 4 or maaaybe a 9. I got a 4 on the test though.

If you study the Enneagram more, 9 might be in your tritype even though 4 is your main number. :)

Originally Posted by acf513

I guess what im getting down to is that (after reading up on INFP's) it's sort of a burden to be an infp to me. I see friends who seem to be able to go out and forget about their lives for the weekend and have fun, but I am constantly feeling/thinking about my life.


Thanks

You're focusing too much on the negatives, and didn't say much about how you are a good person. I'm an INFP and there are some wonderful traits in our personality type, especially when we are healthy and in a positive state of mind. You shouldn't feel as if being a certain personality type is a burden to you, because then you're saying that YOU are a burden towards yourself. In order to stop feeling as if your friends can go out and have fun while you are thinking about life, you should look towards raising your self confidence. When I was younger, I was extremely quiet and now on the personality tests I'm almost extraverted according to some tests.. and my E/I is much more balanced. However, this is just how it works for me, I'm not telling you that you should become more extraverted in order to be happy.. I think you should find the happiness in how you are as a person. Be happy :) You are a musician, and have a talent there, touring with 10 years is amazing.

Sorry about that rant.

Have a very good day, welcome to the forum! If you haven't checked it out, look at the 'You know you're an INFP when...' page, it's great. :)

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Originally Posted by soulsearch

You're focusing too much on the negatives, and didn't say much about how you are a good person. I'm an INFP and there are some wonderful traits in our personality type, especially when we are healthy and in a positive state of mind. You shouldn't feel as if being a certain personality type is a burden to you, because then you're saying that YOU are a burden towards yourself. In order to stop feeling as if your friends can go out and have fun while you are thinking about life, you should look towards raising your self confidence. When I was younger, I was extremely quiet and now on the personality tests I'm almost extraverted according to some tests.. and my E/I is much more balanced. However, this is just how it works for me, I'm not telling you that you should become more extraverted in order to be happy.. I think you should find the happiness in how you are as a person. Be happy :) You are a musician, and have a talent there, touring with 10 years is amazing.

Sorry about that rant.

Have a very good day, welcome to the forum! If you haven't checked it out, look at the 'You know you're an INFP when...' page, it's great. :)

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I understand what you mean.thanks, and i just checked out that page...VERY funny and very true haha.