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... hah hah. Though it's hardly witty and I do doubt it really worked. ;)
Hello to all and thanks for creating and being a part of what seems like a really wonderful forum and community! I'm so glad I've stumbled onto this site and I've thoroughly enjoyed reading through various threads today while putting off the creation of my account until I could come up with the right username (a fittingly INFJ sort of thing to do). I'm happy that I got past that point and I'm looking forward to interacting with all of you in the coming days.
Following MBTI theory I am an INFJ. I've found a great, great deal of comfort through being shown this as I grew up feeling very misunderstood while also largely unable to understand myself. Of course that all changes as we mature but there were many times not so long ago when I thought it would never change for me. Growing up a male INFJ in a society with cultural expectations demanding quite the opposite from men was jarring and I've had to sort through a lot. But I once heard someone say that INFJ's are their own best therapist and, thank God, that worked out for me. Most of my life I thought I was the only one that could be trusted and was unforgivably independent when it came to my own problems; I shared them with no one. This, all the while desiring above all else to have deep relationships with people. As it turned out, regardless of how little I trusted them, others always trusted me for some inexplicable reason and looked to me to carry their hurts and show them how to go about fixing things. I, however, eventually learned through a heartrending breakup that relationships (as I so deeply long for them) cannot exist with one sided trust. So, I had to step back and reevaluate my beliefs about everything- the entire cosmos. That was a torturous year in which I sank into intense depression and seclusion. I emerged, however, on the other side of that experience with a wonderful new perspective and the willingness to let myself be changed out of the old habits and fears I had clung. A couple of years later (late 2009) finding the MBTI was another great boost in confidence as I began to recognize that many of the things I had struggled with (or still do) were not entirely unique (a refreshing revelation if you let it be).
On the lighter side... a few random things about myself- I love music, I'm a drummer, a guitarist and I adore singing. I love writing, reading, film... I have a great affinity for tennis, basketball, football and photography as well as animals and the great work of nature in general. I also love getting to know *you*. :) Thanks for reading all of this.
As a side question- How many of you have ever used the Enneagram and would you recommend it?
Originally Posted by Sirindu 
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