So, I am an INFP girl and I really love an INTP guy. I don't even know how I fell for him because physically he is not my type at all but I guess we had a connection, you could say that. I just typed him yesterday and I think it makes sense why we could "get" each other so easily, perhaps because of our Extraverted Intuitive Function. The problem is that we started being just friends and then alcohol got in the way and we kissed one time, two, three, he started to stay at my place for the night (though we never had sex) and he was really sweet, he is intellectual, has strong ADHD, he is weird, says comments at the wrong times but I find that adorable haha. He liked to cuddle me and you know, things that make an INFP fall in love haha. After a while of having this friends with benefits sort of relationship I told him I wanted to have a relationship, a serious one. He told me he didn't that it wasn't me, but that he didn't feel like he wanted a relationship right now.
I was heart broken but decided to keep being friends with him... all this time he was really good to me, he would take me to dinner sometimes, payed for everything, he called me to see how my day went, he texted me all the time and he told me he cared deeply about me. So I just felt like we were ready to take the next step. He wasn't... so I toldhim we should stay away and stop talking, he insisted that please, he didnt want us to stop talking! and he would just hug me and said that we had a weird relationship but that we cared about each other, that we should just see how things work out. I felt he didn't want to commit, so one day after he slept over and we did sexual things (haha sorry) I told him that he was hurting me and I just started crying... he was so stressed out and he started crying too. I was really shocked by the fact that he started crying and he kept saying that he didn't mean to hurt me and that please, I should just stop crying and he kissed me and we just fell asleep in each other's arms... so after that intense drama episode, things just got worse.. I couldn't help but think what were "we" doing... and he wanted us to be just friends, like best friends I guess but when we got drunk he wanted to kiss me and stuff...
One day I wrote him an email and deleted him from FB, my phone, everything and told him I couldn't be in that relationship anymore. That he knew what I wanted and that if didn't want that he should back off for real... so he did. I think he also got tired of my drama... or something. We stopped talking at all. Not a word, anything... and a month went by and I cant get over him. I saw him the other day and we got in a fight as always, he was a jerk... but well, I miss him, I miss us and
I just wish I knew what to do to make him feel the way I do and to know what REALLY did he feel for me??
Sorry for the super long post but I have no clue what to do next.