[kudi]

First, you're going to need a red candle, a lock of his hair, and a tarot deck..

Where can I find such a spell book??? There are so many things that I want a spell for to fix...

Sure sure, make fun of the cripple :(

Its only cause we love you captain bendy thumb

[ana]

@ana a lot of good insights in the male-INTP psyche already in this thread, like this one:

He went hedgehog on you.
He still spends too much effort on avoiding you, yet not cutting all ties or possibilities of an encounter completely to not care.
He is torn between his Ti-Si telling him : "Think about it, you care about her too much, what will happen when it goes asunder? You think we can handle all that raw emotion (Fe)? In any case it will take a hell of a lot of effort and emotion, and possibly some scarring. Logical course is to keep some distance"
At the same time his feelings (Fe) are screaming at him to go for it, to go for love, . . but is straitjacketed by strong Ti (possibly drawing input from a previous bad experience through Si).

When you asked him to formalize it, the idea of a relationship (with all his possible fears and angsts) suddenly became all too real. You might have had a relationship already in all but in name, but this can serve as a sort of "excuse" in his logic to label it a "non-relationship" so he could avoid over-thinking the implications of a relationship.
It is a way to cope, by keeping the current relationship out of his Ti-Si logical loop.

A real small distinction, true, but we INTP's are know to be nitpickers about the absolute correctness of definitions.


You know, when I read this kind of threads I wonder how (some) of the male INTP population succeeds in pair-bonding at all, let alone raise offspring . .

Truly, I put this to you, Are we (well many of us at least it seems) the most socially and romantically awkward and inept of all the MBTI types and genders?

I don't think you are the most socially awkward of all MBTI types to have relationships, but I do think that you complicate things way too much in your head. You know, I wasn't sure that he was an INTP but now it is so clear. He always tried to "define" exactly what he meant, even to the point of spending more time phrasing the idea than letting it out. He always "admired" the fact that I used specific terms for specif situations, that comes easy to me, like "you are a really egocentric person". Instead of getting mad he was like, yes, I like that definition or I like the way you phrased that... I was like what?? He was so weird sometimes. Which leads me to think even more, "dude I want to be with you! I love all your quirks and analytical random comments haha, why do you have to complicate things like this?" But anyways, I will try to be his friend again - strictly friend- so that way things can cool off. But who knows? Maybe I'll meet my real prince charming soon.

[kikikins]

@ana a lot of good insights in the male-INTP psyche already in this thread, like this one:

He went hedgehog on you.
He still spends too much effort on avoiding you, yet not cutting all ties or possibilities of an encounter completely to not care.
He is torn between his Ti-Si telling him : "Think about it, you care about her too much, what will happen when it goes asunder? You think we can handle all that raw emotion (Fe)? In any case it will take a hell of a lot of effort and emotion, and possibly some scarring. Logical course is to keep some distance"
At the same time his feelings (Fe) are screaming at him to go for it, to go for love, . . but is straitjacketed by strong Ti (possibly drawing input from a previous bad experience through Si).

When you asked him to formalize it, the idea of a relationship (with all his possible fears and angsts) suddenly became all too real. You might have had a relationship already in all but in name, but this can serve as a sort of "excuse" in his logic to label it a "non-relationship" so he could avoid over-thinking the implications of a relationship.
It is a way to cope, by keeping the current relationship out of his Ti-Si logical loop.

A real small distinction, true, but we INTP's are know to be nitpickers about the absolute correctness of definitions.


You know, when I read this kind of threads I wonder how (some) of the male INTP population succeeds in pair-bonding at all, let alone raise offspring . .

Truly, I put this to you, Are we (well many of us at least it seems) the most socially and romantically awkward and inept of all the MBTI types and genders?

Leave it to an INTP male to use rationalization to come up with the least rational outcome possible. I can't even imagine an INTP male who actually did take a risk and dove in to a relationship that turned out bad, now that's one train wreck of an emotionally damaged man. Scary...Whatever happened to "what makes me happy? Chillin' with this person makes me happy. Okay I'm gonna chill with this person." End of the damn story guys.
Calm down, breathe through your nose. Everything will be okay

[humansponge]

One does not simply make an INTP fall in love....


I hope no one said that yet. I didn't get a chance to read through the thread yet.