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This is a discussion on My INTP best friend is bored with life? Help! within the INTP Forum - The Thinkers forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Originally Posted by Wishbutton That's actually what I was thinking. I haven't been trying to suffocate her or anything, though ...
I think moving is hell on any INTP. Sure, at first it's fascinating, a new place to explore! But then you realize that you don't know where everything is and more importantly that you miss your friends big time. Why? Because INTP's tend to have only a couple of good friends. And making new friends is so darn difficult. So that can certainly become very frustrating.
As far as the hugging and babying thing goes, I love doing a lot of things for friends that I don't really enjoy being done to me. I love buying them things or just doing a lot of things for them, I'm not a big fan of people doing things for me. I appreciate it when they do but I don't know, I am just not a fan of it. I don't mind things like hugging and kissing when I'm saying hello or goodbye, but if I'm feeling sad then hugging from some people is just awkward.
The best advice I can give is not for her but for you, we are all in charge of our own lives and how we live them. If she is bored with life then that is ultimately her problem and not yours. This is something she needs to deal with. I'm not saying you should ignore her, just keep trying to be the normal friend you've always been. I'm just saying that worrying too much about her and feeling any of it is your fault will not help YOU any. You love her and you are there for her if she needs you, but even if God forbid one day she decided to take her life, that's her decision, not something you can control.
I say this because at one point I was obsessed with trying to help a friend. Now this friend would talk about suicide quite often and that used to worry me so much. I felt like I had to save her from these ideas. I was asking around for advice and I ended up talking to my brother who is an ENTJ. That was his advice to me. At first I thought it was just cold and heartless but then I started thinking about it more and decided that he was indeed right. I continued helping my friend out but I didn't allow myself to get obsessed about it. Today my friend lives happily with her husband and family.
Also keep in mind that INTP's hate having people control them, so if you start giving too many suggestions of things to do they will start ignoring you just because it feels like you are controlling them or trying to. I don't want to speak for all of us but I HATE it when people are like "You should do this". In my mind I'm always like "Well you should STFU!".
14. That's the issue. Some things just don't come without age. Just give her hope and ambition, be interested in her life, thoughts, future ideas. That's all she needs now.
Don't be mad brah. It's just a bit of fun.