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This is a discussion on Responding to Compliments within the INTP Forum - The Thinkers forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Originally Posted by Rift I do have a question that's relative to this... when someone thanks your post... do you ...
It depends on who it is, but generally they do make me nervous and since I have no idea what to say I just mumble incoherently for a few seconds and hope they think I said something nice back.
I just smile awkwardly...or laugh... or do both, and then say 'thank you' while thinking 'gosh, "thank you" is such a weird phrase'...
I like hearing them (sometimes), because I always think I'm doing the wrong thing or I'm just 'failing at life' in general ... but I never know how to respond either. Usually I come off sounding proud or I unintentionally insult the person who complimented me by telling them how wrong they are.
I was actually thinking about this today. My boss gave me a compliment on my work and I just nodded and put on an awkward little smile. I didn't know what to say and I didn't want to draw the moment out too long so I just went back to my work.
Last edited by crazyeddie; 03-18-2012 at 08:14 PM.
"What? Did I just get a compliment? Why....thank you! Wait, how should I express my thanks? If I make too big a show of it, people will think I'm conceited. But, if I'm too quiet about it, people will think I'm aloof or blowing them off. I want to thank them, though! WHAT SHOULD I DO??"
What really comes out of my mouth is as follows:
"W-w-what? T-t-t-thank y---Um..... What? Was that a compliment? T-t-thanks." *fumbles and awkwardly leaves*
This happens far too often... Especially if I'm lost in some other train of thought.
When I get a compliment I don't understand, I ask "why" or "how" which apparently translates to not accepting the compliment, which isn't true! I just want to understand before I accept it... it's like anything else.
It shouldn't have to be so hard to accept a compliment :)