[armika_armika]

Perhaps the reason you tend to fall for the same kind of guy is because someone whom you had feelings for was like that.
And I'm not just talking about anyone, but someone whom you'll always have a part of in your life (6 years already). Yes, I'm talking about that guy. I don't know if it's true, it's just a thought.
Have you ever considered this? Perhaps it helps explain why you tend to fall for the guys which don't give you the love you deserve.
And believe me, you do deserve love. Way more than you might want to believe (at times). And there >is< somebody out there whom you'll love and will love you back. According to statistics (considering the 7billion people alive) there are plenty of them... It's just a problem of finding them and both realizing the other's the one.

I can't give you as awesome advice as other people on this thread has given (seriously, some of that stuff is really good!) - but I can encourage you to not give up :).
I think the idea of "those who don't pursue happiness will actually find happiness" might have some truth in love-department as well. People who put all their effort in trying to become more happy miss out on the simple things in life which could make them happpy. It could be a smile of a stranger, it could be the nice weather, it could be the high grade you got, it could be your daughter passing another year of school... In my experience, these simple things will be missed out if you actively try to pursue happiness; such as trying to find the love of your life, trying to optimize your way of living, giving your all to one particular thing which you think will make you happy. It may be true for only me, but I think it applies to most people, to some extend.
I would suggest to simply live your life and enjoy it on many different levels; the lack of having a SO will play a smaller role in your life. However, at the same time, if you DO run into a SO, it will only add up to things, rather than fill a gap in your life.

Anyway, as I've said, it could be that this won't work for all people.
Best of luck anyway :).

Thank you, you are so clever too!!!!! Lot's of good advices! For sure, I've been letting this guy take to much of my mind. I'll fix me up now, emotionally speaking. I promise :) I promise. I've become addicted to writing in this thread too (oh damn my addictive personality). I will now wait at least two weeks before I write anything else in this thread! :D
Oh and I cannot believe you had the patience to read this entire thread???!! Impressive.

[armika_armika]

Amazon.com: Women Who Love Too Much (9780671733414): Robin Norwood: Books

Aoutch... she's so right it hurts. :'(

[qingdom]

you need someone to play your emotional sponge. I'm sorry, but I'm not even a paper towel.

I'm just a puny 1-ply tissue and can't even begin to figure out how to clean up your puddle of emotional leakage.

I'm just gonna remain in my tissue box and brood.

[Ayia]

Amazon.com: Women Who Love Too Much (9780671733414): Robin Norwood: Books

Aoutch... she's so right it hurts. :'(

are you trolling with the intps? this is hardcore emotional even for feelers :P but it's really entertaining, so please continue

[crazyeddie]

are you trolling with the intps? this is hardcore emotional even for feelers :P but it's really entertaining, so please continue

The emotion! It burns! It burns!

[qingdom]

The emotion! It burns! It burns!

I know, right? It's like acidic, but yet we just stare at the fizzing psychedelically.

[Ayia]

The emotion! It burns! It burns!

I feel your pain ;)

[nadjasix]

Why are you letting him get to you like this? You sound like you're smart, pretty, social, etc, all good things, and not bad at attracting INTPs either. Your life and your emotions are in your hands.

I think he probably likes you as a person but you're not what he's looking for in a romantic partner, so as much as he cares about you, he logically can't see himself with you, for whatever reason. I'm guessing he's compartmentalizing love/sex to fulfill his physical needs with you and you're presenting yourself as okay with the arrangement to be close to him. Because we INTPs can be a bit dense when it comes to this stuff, feel free to tell him how you're feeling with regard to your current relationship. (i.e. "I want to continue sleeping with you but I feel too attached). Be direct. We will take you at your word. If you beat around the bush or expect us to read between the lines, we will fail miserably.

Finally, try to take a page or two out of an introvert's book... Extroverts tend to seek external validation. You don't need that. You're perfectly fine on your own. Find your own validation. The kind of people who appreciate who you are will sense that about you and love you for the same reasons you love yourself.

Sanest post on thread.