[goodgracesbadinfluence]

I don't particularly like the idea of marriage, but it is definitely something I would consider if I have already been a significant amount of time with the person and we try to understand each other, and we respect each others differences. What I refuse to do is the whole ring thing. I think love and commitment cannot be represented by a ring, or any object for that matter. If I am to marry someone, she will have to get used to the idea of there being no ring, at least not one that has to do with marrying. I am giving you my self, my attention, my love, my money, my possessions, everything. Is that not symbolic enough? I might get her a ring, but it will not have to do anything with the marriage.

For me (and being an INTP, I'm probably in the minority) the ring about letting others know you're married so they will hopefully leave you alone.

[Diligent Procrastinator]

For me (and being an INTP, I'm probably in the minority) the ring about letting others know you're married so they will hopefully leave you alone.

I guess that makes a bit of sense... But that's what commitment is for... I can just tell people I am married, without a ring.

[goodgracesbadinfluence]

I guess that makes a bit of sense... But that's what commitment is for... I can just tell people I am married, without a ring.

That's true as well, but generally speaking if you tell a female you're married she'll back off, and that may or may not be true speaking as a female. My mom and my best friend have both had instances where people tried to hit on them and then they noticed the ring on the finger. I think seeing the ring may ward off the guys who are just trying to pick you up. I could be totally wrong though.

[JollyBard]

I don't particularly like the idea of marriage, but it is definitely something I would consider if I have already been a significant amount of time with the person and we try to understand each other, and we respect each others differences. What I refuse to do is the whole ring thing. I think love and commitment cannot be represented by a ring, or any object for that matter. If I am to marry someone, she will have to get used to the idea of there being no ring, at least not one that has to do with marrying. I am giving you my self, my attention, my love, my money, my possessions, everything. Is that not symbolic enough? I might get her a ring, but it will not have to do anything with the marriage.

Can't there be commitment and love without marriage? What's the point?

[nadjasix]

Can't there be commitment and love without marriage? What's the point?

Money and social politics...

I mean, "love"...

[Knight_In_Rags]

It seems like it is believed that every human wants to (at some point) be married, start a family, bear offspring, and continue their family tree. However, I was thinking earlier about how much easier life would be if one neglected starting a family. They would only need to support one person, and they would not need to constantly compromise their plans and ideas. As an introvert, this would also be more appealing because they could spend their time at home in solitude and simply go out when they wish to partake in interaction. Of course, it is considered strange to be single past a certain point, and that person would have a hard time being viewed as socially acceptable.

lol omg this is so INTP XDDD

[Fate]

Not really interested. I think I'll fall in love and fall out of love within this lifetime more than enough times. I don't need some legally binding contract to restrict my life even further. I make enough compromises as it is. I will not delve into insanity during this lifetime.

[Draco]

While I'm appalled by marriage as a cultural norm, or as a way to show off your happiness or wealth (by making a real spectacle of it), I find it interesting as a symbolic way to show the community, but first and foremost each other, how deeply you care for each other.

Might be that I think this way because I tend to the shy side, and as such making a "public display" of myself is one of the greatest efforts I can do for someone.

Or I might be a hopeless romantic :p