[Lape Snape]

Today I feel like I experienced one of my biggest fiasco in my life lol Igot sick of being alone all this time - spring is coming and so many couplesaround everywhere..And those online dating advertisements did their job. I cameup with that it is not such a bad idea to search for someone in online datingwebsite. I picked up one with good questionnaire, because dating with all kindof assholes is the last thing that I want.

So here I am - answering the questions for all hour and hoping it will beworth it. And guess what happened? Guess what kind of response I got at theend?? that there is no matches for me in whole website system! NONE!

They suggested to view my profile, they had made from my answers. And here -even biggest disappointment. It turn out that I am selfish, cold and boringrobot. But the worst is that I don't want to be selfish. Now I am wondering tochange my life upside down and live for others. I haven't reached any of mygoals anyway.

Have any of you experienced something like this?

[bellisaurius]

Some dating sites try to ask questions to see if you're telling the truth (eharmony, for example),asking questions like "have you ever had an angry thought"; something we all have, but don't like to admit.

Another possibility is that you live in an area without a lot of people on that site.

Also, perhaps you were a bit too hard on yourself or others in the questions asked. Maybe you could try it again with a more forgiving point of view.

Or, if it turns out you are actually as selfish, etc.. as you think you are, maybe you could take some time to consider what dating and relationships are: sacrifices of one's self to the service of a composite being known as a couple, with short term giving in the quest of long term contentment. One has to be willing to make a leap of faith in order for it to work out. If you find a good fit, making the change should feel pretty seamless, and you don;t have to worry about changing yourself, it'll happen on its own.

[Lape Snape]

Thank you for your answer bellisaurius:) have you ever found someone indating websites? I mean does it really work?

I never thought that I might do it one day. But as I am so selective and my expectations are so high, I don't want to waste my time with ordinary men and to hurt their feelings. I just cannot be myself with 'normal' people...

Another possibility is that you live in an area without a lot ofpeople on that site.

the thing is I live in London lol that's why I got so sad. And I've even chosen option 'find friends from all the world'. and they haven't found anything :Dlol lol lol

[Iamtp]

My advice is to fake it until you make it. It's like a resume where you are highlighting all of your best qualities with no hint of negativity. Obviously everyone has their warts but you'll want to keep those under wraps until you at least get to meet them in person and see if you could click in spite of those. In other words, it's ok to not be honest to a fault on a resume in order to get someone to look at your profile and be intrigued. These sites are specifically designed to get people to interact and tell everyone how awesome they are at getting people together.

The fun part about creating a profile as a guy is to slowly increase the amount of money you claim you make (as a joke) from less than $15,000, to $30,0000 - $50,000, to $50,000+ and watch the frequency of the emails increase exponentially.

It's the equivalent of women adding photos that go from smiling with a cat, to wearing a short skirt and high heels, to sunbathing in a bikini.

[qingdom]

It's the equivalent of women adding photos that go from smiling with a cat, to wearing a short skirt and high heels, to sunbathing in a bikini.

shameful as it is like shopping for 'The One', an example of such a search for the majority of the people who does online dating is and would be:

boring... insecure... fat... ugly... obese... unattractive... has a kid... HOLY TITS! *bookmark*



There has GOT to be an easier alternative way.

[Lape Snape]

The fun part about creating a profile as a guy is to slowly increasethe amount of money you claim you make (as a joke) from less than $15,000, to$30,0000 - $50,000, to $50,000+ and watch the frequency of the emails increaseexponentially.

so how much do you really earn? ;) loool

It's the equivalent of women adding photos that go from smiling witha cat, to wearing a short skirt and high heels, to sunbathing in a bikini.

oh no, I couldn't do it. Even with a fake picture, doesn't matter. I feelworthless when someone is interested in me just because of my appearance. OtherwiseI even wouldn’t need to wear bikini or go to dating website to attract whosedi*kheads. Thing is that is not I'm searching for.

[nonsensical]

I signed up for a dating site about two weeks ago. Still haven't made a profile yet. The thought of coming up with shit to say about myself kind of made me lose interest in finishing it! lol

[Silian Rail]

My advice is to fake it until you make it. It's like a resume where you are highlighting all of your best qualities with no hint of negativity. Obviously everyone has their warts but you'll want to keep those under wraps until you at least get to meet them in person and see if you could click in spite of those. In other words, it's ok to hide your brutal honesty in order to attract someone. These sites are specifically designed to get people to interact and tell everyone how awesome they are at getting people together.

The fun part about creating a profile as a guy is to slowly increase the amount of money you claim you make (as a joke) from less than $15,000, to $30,0000 - $50,000, to $50,000+ and watch the frequency of the emails increase exponentially.

It's the equivalent of women adding photos that go from smiling with a cat, to wearing a short skirt and high heels, to sunbathing in a bikini.

I'd go for the "smiling with a cat" one though. Which is why I don't believe it's a good idea to fake anything. You want to attract the right kind, don't you?

[Iamtp]

I didn't make a profile for a while either until I actually saw evidence of dateable women in my area and age range.

This girl on okcupid sent me a message two days ago, that she saw no reason why we wouldn't get along.
She had 3 pictures up. One showed her huge tattoo on her bare back, one was her taking a picture of herself in a bra, and another was her taking a picture of herself 4 weeks later in better shape in a bra with a comment that she would post another picture later if we were lucky.
I was just like "Oh thanks for the pictures. What else should we talk about?"

[Iamtp]

I'd go for the "smiling with a cat" one though. Which is why I don't believe it's a good idea to fake anything. You want to attract the right kind, don't you?

By faking, I don't mean lie about your profession, where you live, factual stuff etc..
I'm assuming she answered every question with a "No" or negatively which is why she was finding no matches. If you are actually seeking someone out, you need to market yourself a little bit. Most INTP's do not like to do this. If you hate people, you really can't post "I hate people," on your profile or no one will want to contact you.