So I'm an INTP girl, who by my serious narcissistic leanings or fate, have fallen for an INTP guy I work with. We circle around each other like buzzards but neither of us has been able to make the first move. After a year and half of this nonsense, we find ourselves mutually attracted and repelled by one another, and I have finally given up on the hope of us getting into a relationship and have started seeing other people.
Our office has decided that we should have more morale and have divided us up into group of ten for "team building" exercises. For each team, we were given a color with our own little flag (my team color is purple, his is lime green). In a rare act of solidarity and creativity, I pinned my flag to the wall in my cubicle and forgot all about it. So for 6 weeks or so, he's been ignoring me, but then one day I come in to work and notice that something is different at my desk. An hour later I had to pass by his desk and noticed that he had stolen my flag and pinned it to his wall. I sent him a nasty email calling him a dirty thief but didn't demand it back and for 2 weeks it stayed pinned to his wall. Then, his desk was moved to another location in the building and when I came in to work, my flag was pinned back to my wall and lying next to it on my desk was his flag. So I took my flag down and pinned his to my wall instead.
I'm hoping some INTP guys might give me their theories on what this nonsense all means. Its not as if we're able to talk about our feelings, or behave in a normal adult fashion. It seems to me like 2 INTPs courting one another is always either a game of constant posturing or blunt heavy handed accusations followed by long periods of silence. If any one cares to give their 2 cents, I'd much appreciate it.