This is a discussion on What are your INFP friends like? within the INTP Forum - The Thinkers forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Jut curious......
Like me except more sensitive, although they tend to be blunter in their interactions with others than I am (since they don't have Fe). They are goofy and nerdy and artistic, just like I am. My INFP friends tend to be more sarcastic than the average INFP (tend). I guess since they were the sort to befriend INTP's they would be more comfortable with their Te's anyway. I feel comfortable around them since they tend to be just as oblivious to popular culture as I am and have the same bizzare sense of humour. I like that they tend to be idealistic, and they tend to care about many of the same causes that I do. Many of them like to write, like I do, and they were the ones who convinced me to lower myself to do NaNoWriMo the other year (I failed, but it was fun).
However, one INFP I used to know the more sensitive one (and a very dear friend) I had to cut ties with for complicated reasons...the extra sensitivity often makes them needy, and this is where we tend to clash.
For some reason I tend to get on better with INFP females than INFP males. I'm not sure why, and there are definitely exceptions. I think the issues tend to be on their end (they have problems with me, not the other way around).
I'm dating someone that I know is an INFP for sure, and I suspect a couple others. Even before I was dating him, there was an uncanny ability to not have to say much if we didn't want to. Granted, it's easy for us to talk for hours about just about anything, but the cool part is that we often share "looks" that sum up entire conversations, to the point where we don't even ask "were you thinking what I was thinking?" because we've never been wrong.
I'd say the similarities are astounding, and so are the differences. We're very rational and agreeable people, and although he tends to go with feeling much more than I do in decision making, it is always with the intention of making the most amount of people happiest without compromising values. We also notice the same things but get there in very different ways. We'll both agree as soon as a friend has left if they seem oddly sad or out of it, but he got to that conclusion by the overall "sense" of it from being around them on that specific day, whereas I come to the same conclusion by spotting an inconsistancy in the behavior patterns I've noticed over the long run.
Another major difference is sociability. He's introverted primarily as well, but people are somehow magnetically drawn to him, and at the same time it is very easy for me to be ignored, even if I speak up in the middle of silence. Some magnetic charisma he has that I don't. Also I'm sure he views me as overly dismissive sometimes, and I have found it irrational at times that he can get so quickly upset over something like a cashier being impatient - he'll take it that they're personally dismissing him, and not because they're having a bad day. I stopped thinking that once I read up on INFP's though - apparently this is very common with them and has something to do with them perceiving that their values have been stepped on. In this case I think it is his value of hospitality or something related - he sees all people of the world as potential friends and probably feels snubbed when they don't agree.