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This is a discussion on Explaining Your Ideas, Thoughts and Jokes within the INTP Forum - The Thinkers forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Originally Posted by absent air approved. But it always sounds so good in your head somehow, I wish I had ...
I'm terrible about this. Everything always sounds so great and easy to understand in my head, but when I go and try to explain it to someone else it's awful. Either I trip over my words and have these long awkward pauses where I try to figure out how to explain something, or I just ramble and talk in circles. I'm always concerned that it makes me seem stupid to people :(
I'm much better with written communication because I can sit and think for as long as I want and make sure it comes out right.
The less time I socialize the worse I am at this, but the more I socialize the less happy I am. So I guess get used to being awkward? I'm not sure I will ever fit into society. What hurts the most is that I know my NF friends still think I am close minded in my thinking. It's not my fault no one else thinks like me, my thinking is all I have, just let me have this one thing that I can call good, please!
Example a coworker teased me about my tan. The office laughs. I countered by teasing him about his anemia (low redblood cell production making one appear pastey pale) blank stares. One person laughs and another asks "whats anemia?" I explain, then get one more chuckle.
I'm stumble with my jokes usually. But people either have two reactions to my jokes: Disgust or confusion. Dead baby jokes, Hellen Keller jokes, and holocaust jokes aren't seen as funny to most people. Then I say jokes that go way over people's heads, and then I have to explain.