[Mantis]

Curious to know how you dealt with your issues. Do you just repress your issues? I have tried to do just that and they blew up in my face.

I am a rational person, because I can easily spot the source of my emotional issues, and see how they led me to the things from a certain perspective, but I still can't control my emotions.

I have also wondered if it was my early environment that shaped my current personality into INTP...I grew up with an alcoholic parent, and a lot of the things I read about "adult children of alcoholics" seem to me like traits that could be attributed to the INTP-such as constant denial or repression of feelings, not trusting their emotions and feelings,chronic lack of trust, over-responsibility, or lack of it.

In addition, I also have suffered from the "victim" perspective on life, as well as the desire to be loved and accepted by all, to the detriment of personal development.

[sensorium]

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[InevitablyKriss]

M'mm, yeah. :/ Maybe I'll talk about it later but I don't quite feel like going into detail right now.

As for 'how do you deal with your issues', I would try to bury it or pretend it wasn't even a problem or wasn't even happening. I've only learned recently how to actually acknowledge my emotions, and when I'm feeling something, be sure to give it a name in my head, don't just bury it right away. The problem with that though is, living my whole life and never really experiencing emotions for anything, I started barfing my emotions everywhere because I didn't know what they were or how to deal with them.

I still don't know how to deal with them, and I think that I'm going back to burying them. But, at least I acknowledge them, right?

[username]

My family was not dysfunctional. I can remember being reflective and introverted at about two years of age. I think I was born with my personality.

[Mantis]

*darksoul and sensorium raise hands*

well? care to share your experience?

[Mantis]

My family was not dysfunctional. I can remember being reflective and introverted at about two years of age. I think I was born with my personality.

that's cool. I don't know about myself..I used to have a strong desire to escape my everyday reality. I remember a lot of doll-playing, board-games, painting or making other small creative stuff for the house...playing with my pets a lot..I think all of these might not point so much towards INTP, and even though I used to fantasize about becoming a marine biologist from age 6, I was never enthusiastic about the idea of studying for hours, being locked up in a room, all day.

[InevitablyKriss]

that's cool. I don't know about myself..I used to have a strong desire to escape my everyday reality. I remember a lot of doll-playing, board-games, painting or making other small creative stuff for the house...playing with my pets a lot..I think all of these might not point so much towards INTP, and even though I used to fantasize about becoming a marine biologist from age 6, I was never enthusiastic about the idea of studying for hours, being locked up in a room, all day.

For me, things didn't get rocky for me until I was 12, and then everything came tumbling out of control. Although, all through elementary, I was bullied. That sucked, but whatever, you grow, and you move on.


I wanted to be either an artist, or an archeologist!

[username]

that's cool. I don't know about myself..I used to have a strong desire to escape my everyday reality. I remember a lot of doll-playing, board-games, painting or making other small creative stuff for the house...playing with my pets a lot..I think all of these might not point so much towards INTP, and even though I used to fantasize about becoming a marine biologist from age 6, I was never enthusiastic about the idea of studying for hours, being locked up in a room, all day.

I think INTP children are "normal" children too. I don't think being an INTP necessarily means you're enthusiastic about being locked up in your room all day. I played with dolls too, but I was also a more reserved and serious child than most.

[Promethea]

Parents were addicts, mom probably had borderline personality disorder. Abuse, neglect, your run-o'-the-mill fucked up childhood. I never felt understood or loved. I was told to not speak, for the most part. I was beaten simply because someone was in a bad mood (which is really a mindfuck because you never know when its going to happen), and I was left to my own devices other than that. No real structure, or instruction. I had to figure things out for myself. So far as affection - well I never learned those things in my family obviously, so I have issues with it now. I don't think that i have genuine emotional connections with people the way others do. I feel it sometimes, I think. Its just never consistent or.. something. I developed ptsd..

Now my parents are both old, and have no fight left in them, basically. They regret what they did to me, but I will never feel an attachment but only obligation to maintain niceties once in a while in order to appear as their 'daughter.' I get asked why I haven't completely written them off and well - I have my reasons.

[str1nger]

my parents got divorced when I was 14, but they handled it very well. they're both very academic (2x PhDs) and raised me in a way very favourable for an INTP child, I suppose. so, luckily quite the opposite for me. im sorry you guys made such awful experiences