On a serious note, don't dwell over the need to 'achieve' a relationship. Most relationships are more like loveless, insecure partnerships, I reckon.
People who 'play the game' or enjoy 'the chase' are idiots with pre-historic primal instincts who just want a bit of momentary excitement and don't care at all for things in the long run. Hence the amount of clearly bored and complacent couples everywhere.
Enjoy your single life and, I reckon, don't chase love because you won't find it that way at all. I reckon, on average, the people who search for love spend as much time without love as the people who don't search for love. So you might as well stop pining over it so much and wait for it to happen naturally!
Oh and some advice I gave my friend was to escape, travel, go somewhere completely new for a long period of time, give yourself a chance to be yourself, and things will probably improve from there. I think that worked for me. I'm lucky enough to have met the most amazing girl in the world, but it was only through leaving the country that I found her. If I had stayed in my home-town, I would still be the same masked version of myself that I had created to fit in with the people and places of my closed existence. So I was generally a false/partial character (which I reckon is true of most INTPs/anybody living in the same place they always have), and so if I had met her then, she wouldn't have liked me at all, because my life was a lie. I don't know if that would apply to you or not, but leaving home definitely, definitely let me be myself.