[Sleeve Of Wizard]

I'm similar. I find myself believing in possibilities so strongly, I create different "reality scenarios" in my head, and once I realize they're wrong (which is usually the case), it's like getting punched in the face.

I believe it's more of a reality "kick" actually



And yes, I get this all the time. It's like that split second feeling you get just as you trip over your own feet and realize you're about to smack into the floor.

[Asshatting]

I broke up with my boyfriend of three years a while ago and realized that I loved the fantasy version of him, not the actual person. What's sad is I didn't care. I was content at the time. What frustrates me is he (or whatever) was my first love and now I have these strong feelings and don't know who the hell I have them for.

[rememberthisusername]

Sometimes I'll say something and no one in the room will respond, which makes me wonder if I've become invisible to those around me.

yeh, what the hell is up with that! Sometimes it will be OBVIOUS that i'm speaking to someone and they'll just blank... and I have to stare at them to force them to register what I've said and to reply.

[Sleeve Of Wizard]

I broke up with my boyfriend of three years a while ago and realized that I loved the fantasy version of him, not the actual person. What's sad is I didn't care. I was content at the time. What frustrates me is he (or whatever) was my first love and now I have these strong feelings and don't know who the hell I have them for.

I can relate to this almost exactly. I ended up questioning who I had the feelings for; the person in my head or the person outside my head. Sometimes I really wish my expectations weren't so damn high. Like with most things, anyone that I like but may seem less than perfect (which I will be in denial about) will inevitably become perfect in my head (which causes the denial). It's sad that in that state I'm unable to really see the things around me clearly. Emotion just fucks everything up.

[Buckersniff]

I broke up with my boyfriend of three years a while ago and realized that I loved the fantasy version of him, not the actual person. What's sad is I didn't care. I was content at the time. What frustrates me is he (or whatever) was my first love and now I have these strong feelings and don't know who the hell I have them for.

This is something i've always had a problem with.
So if we're more in love with the image of the person we create in our head, doesn't this mean we're more in love with our own imaginations than real people? And if we love something we've created in our mind more than the person, doesn't this mean we're more in love with ourselves?
I made a post a while back asking if we as INTP's are more prone to narcissism, but i think i should have asked, "are we more prone towards self-love?" (are they really that different?)

[darksoul]

I can relate to this almost exactly. I ended up questioning who I had the feelings for; the person in my head or the person outside my head. Sometimes I really wish my expectations weren't so damn high. Like with most things, anyone that I like but may seem less than perfect (which I will be in denial about) will inevitably become perfect in my head (which causes the denial). It's sad that in that state I'm unable to really see the things around me clearly. Emotion just fucks everything up.

Yup, emotions does fuck everything up!

[Asshatting]

This is something i've always had a problem with.
So if we're more in love with the image of the person we create in our head, doesn't this mean we're more in love with our own imaginations than real people? And if we love something we've created in our mind more than the person, doesn't this mean we're more in love with ourselves?
I made a post a while back asking if we as INTP's are more prone to narcissism, but i think i should have asked, "are we more prone towards self-love?" (are they really that different?)

I'd say I'm prone to bouts of narcissism. I have no trouble entertaining myself.

For example, as a child I always created the perfect friends or mate in my head. I'd just turn on the fantasy switch and those around me would know I'm "not there." I recall recess as a kid. The girls would bring barbies and play with them after lunch. Well, one kind girl came up to me during one of my fantasy sessions and asked me if I had one. I told her that I didn't but I did ask my mom to get me one that evening. My mom never liked my tom boy qualities so she jumped right on it thinking it was good for me. Well, that ended in the failure. It bothers me that majority of young girls, when they play with dolls, they are conditioning themselves to be mothers or the like. How dreadful. My best friends were males growing up because males are just fucking great. So interesting with all sorts of interests and hobbies.


Edit: I remember when my best childhood friend said he liked me. I was only 9 so I did what came naturally--I hurled a rock to his forehead.

[Wraith]

-I wish I could understand my peers.
-I wish my throat didn't go dry, my heart didn't race, when I have to explain my feelings.
-I wish I didn't feel so stupid all the time.
-I wish I didn't feel weak for posting these.

[catastrophe]

My biggest confession...

After eighth grade, I left school. I was going to home school (long story as to why, I won't get into it) but never did any of the work. So basically, I have no formal high school education.

And yet I've been offered spots in honors college classes and a job tutoring English and psychology. Go figure.

[username]

This is something i've always had a problem with.
So if we're more in love with the image of the person we create in our head, doesn't this mean we're more in love with our own imaginations than real people? And if we love something we've created in our mind more than the person, doesn't this mean we're more in love with ourselves?
I made a post a while back asking if we as INTP's are more prone to narcissism, but i think i should have asked, "are we more prone towards self-love?" (are they really that different?)

I don't think it's narcissism at all. I think it's a result of being introverted and having Ne as an auxiliary function. Our imaginations are so strong that we end up falling in love with an ideal person worthy of our love and not the actual person. I've realized that I tend to do this, so now I force myself to look at a person's weaknesses and choose to love him anyway.