[Promethea]

even though i typically prefer to keep things untied and open-ended.. there are some things, some times that i really, really need closure on - and it drives me crazy when i don't get it. i need to know where i stand. and because i'm not typically a person who wants this, when i do expect it, its a shock.. and it puts someone off who expected me to always be easy-going and laid back about everything.

i go through phases where i forget to pay attention to my nutrition. i can't keep my focus on the mundane for any lengthy amount of time. for the past couple of weeks i have been eating barely enough, and of the wrong foods. now i feel sick for just picking at non-nutritious foods here and there, and not eating anything substantial. i mean i really feel weak and tired like i'm sick.. and i was the one who did this, just by ignoring things that matter, for what.. to crawl into my shell and live in my own fantasy world. sure, great! i don't need things like water, and vegetables.. i'll just live in daydreams and absorb all i need there. i feel like i could fucking faint right now.

i get stuck in one gear. overthink. my mind is tired. my body is tired. i think about engaging other facets of my personality more, then i think about something else, rarely getting out of that gear.

i engage in reality as little as possible. i put work first, and make sure that is taken care of.. but when i don't have that anchor temporarily, i'm likely to disappear into thought and fantasy, unbridled, for who knows how long before something snaps me back out of it.

reality is boring. bars are fucking boring. sports are fucking boring. listening to friends gossip is fucking boring. going to the movies is fucking boring. bowling, your cousins baby shower, your sisters birthday party, going out to lunch to talk about nothing.. fucking boring boring boring. and god dammit i hate boring. i'm a rude asshole because i will be completely preoccupied with whatever is on my mind, instead of listening to you attempt small talk, over plates of food in front of us. my mind seeks stimulation and if i don't get it from you in the moment, i'll forget you exist until you interest me again.. i know, i look bored. i am bored. you don't suck.. i just can't bring myself to pay attention to anything that i'm not interested in.

[darksoul]

i developed feelings again for someone who i probably have no hope of ever being with. whatever part of me operates only on fantasy latches right onto certain characteristics in a rare type of person, ignoring the important details like distance, or even what the other person is thinking about the entire thing. i was laughing at a thread on people having crushes on fictional characters.. then i realized that i practically do it myself. is it unhealthy? seems Ne users are prone to it. hell, i can't even decide if its unhealthy, to want to find a way to stop it. then i get stuck in a gear of daydreaming happily instead of trying to understand if i should even be doing it, practically. break free from it? but my imagination is having fun~ -_-

I hear ya

[Entr0py]

I am just so scared of a relationship that I become avoidant if I even suspect some girl (that I like) might have some feelings for me...

Im only 17y.o. So I really hope il change soon

P.S. Generally I am not avoidant at all, I'm quiet engadeing and fun to be with (at least thats what people say). And I ain't shy with girls I like. I can hug them,
be nice, polite and all. But I totally freeze if I see some girl wants something more then a close friendship.

[Unicorntopia]

- I've seen countless girls cry on guys' shoulders over the years. For once, just once, I'd like for a girl to cry on my shoulder, not because I particularly want her to, but because I want her to think that I can actually help her. The sad fact is that I can't.[/SIZE]

Oh come on, yes you can. All you have to do is put your arm on her shoulder and look her in the eyes for what feels like an uncomfortable period of time and then take a deep breath and give a small smile on the exhale.

If you are feeling extremely patient you can even ask her to elaborate on what is bothering her and why it bothering her. What ever you do don't give her any advise or interrupt unless she asks for it and even then make it short and say she should do what is in her heart before taking your advise.

Mission accomplished.

[kallisti]

All you have to do is put your arm on her shoulder and look her in the eyes for what feels like an uncomfortable period of time and then take a deep breath and give a small smile on the exhale.

Personally, I'd feel really uncomfortable and try to squirm away if someone did that to me..

[generalK]

I am just so scared of a relationship that I become avoidant if I even suspect some girl (that I like) might have some feelings for me...

Im only 17y.o. So I really hope il change soon

P.S. Generally I am not avoidant at all, I'm quiet engadeing and fun to be with (at least thats what people say). And I ain't shy with girls I like. I can hug them,
be nice, polite and all. But I totally freeze if I see some girl wants something more then a close friendship.

Maybe it's just you don't like that girl that much.

[Unicorntopia]

Personally, I'd feel really uncomfortable and try to squirm away if someone did that to me..

Most people are not INTPs.

Have you ever cried on anyones shoulder?...

Most likely, if they started crying on someones shoulder it is because they want the sort of attention I described.

It is difficult without using Fe to figure out what it is that the other person would actually want as opposed to doing what you yourself would want if in that persons shoes.

[roflcopter]

I constantly relive embarrassing moments in my mind, even though the people involved have probably forgotten about it and we are on really good terms. I just can't believe some of the things I've done.

I too often have the feeling that someone is reading my mind, even though I know its absolutely crazy and could never happen.

I have always valued my independence and never wanted to have a significant other. I thought I was incapable of falling in love. However, it has recently happened and of course they don't like me back. (I fall HARD and fast) I hate feelings, they fuck my world up. I just don't know what to do with them. I feel I need to let them out, but its pointless. NO ONE CARES.

I act out conversations I want to have with people in my head, even though I know they will never happen. Even if the person brings up the topic of the conversation I have in my head, I never say what I want to.

I often type out my feelings in word, and then reread them and delete them because of how sickeningly mushy they are.

I sometimes think about how people would react if I were to die. weird i know

I often do things I regret.

I want to do something with my life, but am too lazy to actually do it.

Sometimes I listen to a song and imagine how cool it would be if I wrote the song. I too wish I were a revered lyricist.

I love my friends and family more than anything, but I don't like talking about it. I would kill for them.

I don't know what I would do without my ENFP friend. She somehow pulls my feelings out of me and makes me aware of them. Sometimes this can get a little annoying though.

Now that I have felt (but not experienced) falling in love, I realize that it scares the shit out of me. I couldn't believe some of the things I was willing to do for that person. (and still would if they'd have me).

I know I'm intelligent, but I just can't go to class. My grades reflect this and it pisses me off.

I wish I could ask for help, but I never do.

I hate when people have pity for me.

I use alcohol as a crutch because when i'm drunk I am much more open and can talk to anyone.

I wished I cared enough to have a conversation with strangers.

I wish I had more faith. But I to believe nothing completely.

I wish I would just do, and not think. Or maybe not, because when I do, I usually regret it.

[kallisti]

Most people are not INTPs.

Have you ever cried on anyones shoulder?...

Most likely, if they started crying on someones shoulder it is because they want the sort of attention I described.

It is difficult without using Fe to figure out what it is that the other person would actually want as opposed to doing what you yourself would want if in that persons shoes.

Hm.. When I do cry, I like to keep it to myself. I do see that other people do it for attention (not necessarily in the bad way) and if they're not too timid, the approach you described could work. I need to work on not being scared off by eye contact.

This is why I need to meet an INFJ in real life; you guys make me think about things in a way I normally wouldn't..

[kallisti]

I constantly relive embarrassing moments in my mind, even though the people involved have probably forgotten about it and we are on really good terms. I just can't believe some of the things I've done.

I too often have the feeling that someone is reading my mind, even though I know its absolutely crazy and could never happen.

I act out conversations I want to have with people in my head, even though I know they will never happen. Even if the person brings up the topic of the conversation I have in my head, I never say what I want to.

I often do things I regret.

I want to do something with my life, but am too lazy to actually do it.

I know I'm intelligent, but I just can't go to class. My grades reflect this and it pisses me off.

I use alcohol as a crutch because when i'm drunk I am much more open and can talk to anyone.

^^^These

I'm constantly surprised by how similar we all are. The sad thing is that if we encountered each other out in the world without the safety net of anonymity, we would never give ourselves the opportunity to realize this.