[Dionysus]

how do you guys deal with the fact that many many girls are very appealing physically and yet you know your interests and personalities will clash?

[The Phantom]

Fantastic question. My advice: Love em, and if they do your head in, leave them. It's a shame to know how a certain girl will be. Or you can stick with them and teach them human values beyond material possessions and ideals. Which is what I've done, successfully. Although she was and still is exciting to be with I feel I've opened her up to an extra level of understanding where we can both meet.

[wafflecake]

I'm just uninterested at in girls that can't hold a conversation on topics unrelated to reality t.v., Top 40 music, and "OMG that bitch is so fake" gossip.

[nodi]

I can't stand stupid women (most women), I get horribly frustrated around stupid people in general, but women are all that stupider on average and we all know attractive-smart girls all have boyfriends so I just end up riding solo.

Feels good man.

[sarek]

I think I can safely say that I am almost completely unmoved by the physical attractiveness or non-attractiveness of women. Perhaps I am just deluding myself and my concept of beauty in a woman is simply merely different.

[Dionysus]

OK yea it's nice to say you are real mature and stand up guys who don't care about physical. I'm talking about when a girl is sexy but you know she is probably an idiot/gossip/etc. you can honestly tell me you aren't attracted to them on a physical level?

[lycanized]

I can't stand stupid women (most women), I get horribly frustrated around stupid people in general, but women are all that stupider on average and we all know attractive-smart girls all have boyfriends so I just end up riding solo.

I've met more males than females who seem to totally lack common sense.

[Dionysus]

I've met more males than females who seem to totally lack common sense.

ok. we are talking about dumb ones on this thread, however

[lycanized]

ok. we are talking about dumb ones on this thread, however

That was in response to nodi, not the OP, but I suppose it is different anyway.

[Tranceman80]

OK yea it's nice to say you are real mature and stand up guys who don't care about physical. I'm talking about when a girl is sexy but you know she is probably an idiot/gossip/etc. you can honestly tell me you aren't attracted to them on a physical level?

Personally, I'm absolutely attracted to them on a physical level. If I've had enough to drink (see other topic forum) then I'd probably deal with whatever lame conversation arises.

I think the difficulty arises that I can't reconcile my being physically attracted to a girl but not intellectually attracted to her as well. I have a feeling this is a particular problem for many INTP's (male and female). For instance, I don't believe any of my friends are INTP's and they don't complain about (physical) attractiveness vs. intellectual attracitveness. To them, a girl is either hot or not, no matter her intelligence level.

The other thing is, say you have a girl who is physically attractive and also very intelligent. I seem to really come alive, to show my best qualities around these women, and hence become more attractive myself. I come alive NATURALLY. Whereas, if they are only physically attractive, I can't muster up my best qualities. Part of me wants to, but at the same time there's that inner part that just refuses to. This can be beyond frustrating b/c it leads to apathy. Not to brag, but I'm an attractive, smart guy. I've been told I could be a model. But b/c I have a hard time finding that perfect blend, I either have to settle (which I can't stand doing) or choose my solitary INTP world.