[Skitzabeth]

Example. At my job I sometimes have to use software I am unfamiliar with while customers are watching me. This always makes me extremely nervous and uneasy. Or at school, I prefer to do my homework at home, as opposed to using lab time where there are other students and the teacher in the room, even though this is supposed to be "helpful" because then the teacher is there if we have questions. I really don't like working out my ideas in front of people. Does anyone else experience this?



Exception would be my very close friends. I like to bounce ideas off of and think out loud with them.

I also tend to shy away from input on any of my creative work unless it is from someone I highly respect. Then I will request their input.

[Vanargand]

I totally agree with this, I hate feeling dumb or incompetent in front of others if I can avoid it. Sadly, sometimes it's unavoidable. Just gotta roll with it from time to time I guess, no matter how uncomfortable it is. *shakesfist*

[INTPenn]

I am EXACTLY the same way. I fear my thought process being judged, and found to be slow or at fault. It stems from my intense fear of failure, public and private.

[username]

Yes, I also dislike solving problems in front of others. I think I have a non-traditional way of figuring things out. I try to get a general feel of something first (Ne); then I start breaking it down (Ti). I usually obsess over minute details, and I can do that for hours. Of course I don't like doing that with other people around because people generally don't work that way, so I would feel judged.

[RiverINXP]

I'm totally the same way.

[Quin Sabe]

yeah, same here, I want to double check the facts and figure the solution in private. Then come out with a solution and own those who point out other ways which will fail.

[Radiant Flux]

Very much so, mainly because if I mess up, they'll see my incompetence of the subject.

[Proteus]

I feel the same way much of the time. Being thought of as incompetent or having my ideas looked down upon or thought as stupid is something that I have a very difficult time with.

For me the best way is to keep the problem in mind, go off to try and figure out some possible solutions, then bring my thoughts on the subject forward after I've done lots of analysis on my own. If the particular problem is something that warrants the input of those I'm around, and if group brainstorming is necessary, then I can problem solve with others. Also, if I'm around people whose thought processes are similar to my own then we can collaborate in an effective manner.

[Promethea]

"Lemme go think about it and get back to ya later."

Its hard for me to even think when I have someone staring at me. But I don't care if they think my answer is stupid. Chances are, it isn't and I just haven't explained it well, or they just don't understand. So, I'll tell them I will try to explain later, after I have had time to really think it through.

[AkiKaza]

I used to hate when my math teacher forced us to go up to the board and work on problems I hadn't already figured out. Just -- HUNDREDS of tiny beady little eyes staring at you, waiting for you to mess up...

Of course, if I already knew how to do it, didn't care. More time for me to show of mah genius

But even when I'm at home, I'll hide in my room while I'm working, because I don't want people seeing me when I know I can't do a problem. I get really frustrated, and it's like they're invading my privacy.