[ambience]

I am curious as to how you feel the MBTI types of your parents, siblings, or whoever happened to live in your household growing up, have interacted with your own personality type, effected it, or molded it. I wonder if there is a similar correlation amongst INTPs. Let's see.


Mother: ENFJ
Father: ISTJ
Sister(younger): ENFP



My mother was an artist when she was younger. She substitute taught in her 20s & she homeschooled me for one year. She now interviews children who claim to have been sexually abused. We had an extreme amount of tension while I was growing up & I actively hated her until I left home & got my space. Now, we are best friends.

My father was a politician, & served a term in the NC house of representatives. Before, & after, his political term, he is a business man. He seems to know everything, but does not make a show of it. He has the answer to any question he hears & knows a lot about it. We didn't speak much growing up. He left most of the parenting up to my mom, because he was out of town a lot. I love spending time with him now & feel like I am getting to know someone I didn't fully know before. Is it unusual that my boyfriend has his same type?

My sister is in her first year of college. She has been working with horses since we both started taking riding lessons at a very early age. I left the pasture to spend more time figuring out computers, but still visit often because I love animals. She has trained, raced, & showed horses for almost 10 years now, & she's not even 20. We have been each other's best friends since the beginning of time. I potty trained her. Heh.


I am new to learning/knowing about personality typing. I spent a lot of time finding out my type & making sure it was accurate & true, not based off of my own self ideals. Finally I found that I am INTP, & the descriptions I have read are shocking. I felt like I was reading my own biography. It was almost scary... but not, just exciting to see myself in a way that, apparently, others do. Since I am with the experts here, I was hoping not only to get input about others' own personal upbringings, but also to see if anyone had any insight on how my parents' types classically deal with raising INTP children... especially for their first child.


Oh, &... Pleasure to meet all of you like-minded individuals. I've been looking for you. Hehe.

[Daemos]

I can relate

My father is an ESFJ and my mother is an ISFJ. My little sister is probably an ISFJ too.

So all three are sensors. You can probably imagine there is some tension and between them and me but also amongst "the sensies" themselves. Keep in mind I'm still living at home and so is my little sister. Dear lord thinking of the stuff they tend to argue about. (someone who didn't bring a dirty plate down so it can be put in the dishwasher) there are probably an infinite amount of inane things they can and will argue about. Which I just cannot give a damn about.

Funny how I turned out to be an INTP sometimes it feels like I don't fit in in this little familiy of ours. I am often the one they refer to as callous, and distant in conversation. While they disregard my arguments which are almost always based on reason as being "untrue" because I am not usually clouded by my emotions in my decisions. But also amongst my friends I feel like I am the one that doesn't really belong. I am not complaining though, I will sometimes think of everyone else as sheep following rigid routines and do as they're being told. I guess it's a typical INTP trait, always questioning authority and rules which seem to be set in concrete. (see avatar)

And yes it feels good to meet like minded individuals. I first felt this when I went to law school at the start of this year. So many rational people who you can have a good discussion with without them going: huh, or what the hell are you talking about.

It felt good discovering I was an intp too. It was like I finally knew who I was and why I always had this feeling of not fitting in. Now at least I know why

[Kysinor]

Oh,... Pleasure to meet all of you like-minded individuals. I've been looking for you. Hehe.

Hello and welcome to the forum. Sorry I'm not INTP, but I'm adding my opinion here nevertheless if you've got nothing against it.

Most of my family is S; but from my mother there is a sense of N. I've sort of earned my mother's F and N and my father's P and I if we're going to look at it that way. I don't think personality is fully inherited but I can see that I inherit certain traits of my parents and the rest have been a sort of nurture which isn't that much I think.

I know that I've always been INFP-like ever since I was a child so it's nothing new for me; I haven't changed that much in terms of personality. I've always liked reading; writing and daydreaming. Quiet and reserved as a child; ultimate procrastinator and couldn't finish things I've started. A trait that doesn't exist in my family is that I'm the only highly sensitive person in it; I don't know where the hell it came from. I'm still the same today; although perhaps a little more developed than I was when I was younger.

[Kevinaswell]

Mother esfj. Fucking drove me insane. Every single day. Still. To this day. It's better now I don't live there though, because I can just be all "stfu leave me alone I don't care about tomorrows weather for the 30th time."

Father istp. He's pretty burnt out. Drinks a lot. Maintenance man at an apartment. Sucks at being a father, but an okay person I suppose. He's not like evil. He's kinda stupid though.

Sister used to be ESTP, but now ESFJ like my mum I'm thinking. I've always gotten along very well with all of my siblings.

Stepsister (oldest) entj I'd say. We're very different. But we get along very well.

Stepsister (youngest) infj I'd say. We get along very well.

[philtoxphobia]

I definitely know what you guys mean. My mom is an ESFJ and my dad is an INTP.

Ambience, I have an idea that girls look for traits in guys that they have seen in a respected male family member. I would be using my older brother, an ESTJ who is never rude and insanely smart.
I have two older sisters, ISFP and INFP, a little brother, ESFP, and two little sisters, INFP and ENFP. I am the leader between my two INFP sisters. I don't really understand my mom's strange approach to things, but my dad seems to know about everything.

[Drury]

I'm an ENTP but thought I was INTP for many years since I extrovert onto and get meaning more from the environment than from people, though I can do either. When I finally realized my dominant trait is extroverted intuition and read that extroverts can focus on either people or things, I realized I'm not INTP. I didn't make a very good INTP, lol.

Father: ESTJ
Mother: ISFJ
Brother: ENFJ
Sister: ESFJ

See all those Js, and especially SJs? I've always been a bit separated out from the family, though my brother and I get along well because of our ENs.

The 3 of us kids were raised by force to be ISFJs, the opposite of ENTP, and it's taken me a long time to sort out who I am. When I finally did, within the last month, it's like night and day, the way I look at myself and the world.

[angelictroublemaker]

I'm an INFJ.

My mum is an ESFJ, and we don't have an easy relationship. She's always clucking round like a mother hen - despite my having left home- and force feeding me food and telling me what to wear. I have little respect for her, although she is very kind hearted, and find her conversation superficial and boring.

My sister is an ESTJ and I have the same problems, esp with her extroversion. she's always calling me up to tell me what she's eating for dinner etc :-S and i just can't stand them talking all the time about nothing, and asking stupid/obvious questions. hell certainly is other people at breakfast.

Thankfully, my dad is an intuitive, INTJ, and we just connect and have the best relationship ever. we can spend hours in each others company, just enjoying the time, but without having to talk. when we do talk, its about ideas and philosophy. he always listens carefully, and is always willing o be persuaded by a good argument. i think this has refined my thinking function. he challenges me and asks inciteful questions, which really help me to refine my ideas. also, i value his t-function. when i'm just feeling lots, he'll listen and then point out objectively and contradictionS as well as a way forward (the fixing J).

Any intuitives all alone in your family, I really really feel for you!!

[Drury]

I know what you mean about conversation being...uh...different. When my ISFJ mother got back from a cruise ship trip to Alaska, I sat through all the talk of what the food was like and how the cruise ship was set up, waiting for the good stuff. I finally realized that was it, the only thing she focused on during the cruise.

[angelictroublemaker]

ha ha that's hilarious. i cn totally emphathise - i'm always waiting for the punchline...and its always such a disappointment!!

[NephilimAzrael]

Mother: ESTJ
Father: INFP
Sister: ENFJ

My mother was all the time compelled to get my sister, father and I to be doing something. She was never really imaginative and held many mundane social/hospitality jobs before and after being a mother. She had no natural tendencies towards parenting and was rather abusive, tending to opt toward treating her children as adults that were in her way. Yes, psychologically and physically abusive, opting to view maternity as a form of regime. One of her excuses when confronted over her "parenting style" was, well I was just doing as recommended (we were from a low economic background with violent crime issues - go figure).. It always struck me as a bit of a Nuremberg defense.

My father. He was a generous and compassionate man. He really did wonders for our family, but still to this day beats himself up about not being there more to defend us. His occupations mostly consisted of menial labour or logistics/driving.. An honest sort, quite idealistic but nonetheless competent to hold his own in intellectual defense of his opinions or intuitions.

My sister, the politician.. A cut-throat an somehow unaware individual. Capable (with ease) of manipulating others to act in a manner befitting her will, whilst being oblivious or hostile to those who point out what she is doing. She is highly intelligent like my father and I and is also highly adaptive. She has earned my respect in the past, but nonetheless, I have been called in too many times to reverse her damaging and self-centred ends.. I had a stint in politics in a near mercenary capacity just to tackle her pre-consciously malevolent manner.

Love 'em all of course. Bunch of psychopaths though, the whole lot.. No wonder why I am a gun for hire in that circle.