[incline5]

I must say of all the emotions Anger is the one I dislike dealing with the most, because i'm never sure how to handle it. When I find myself getting angry I usually try to walk away form the situation as I hate conflict, but in the times when I can't, I find it comes on like a wave that is surprising in it's ferocity. I feel angry that I got angry and lost control and that someone was responsible for that...I'm a pretty laid back person so it's not real easy to get me mad, usually I'll just disengage. I think what really rankles me is that someone managed to break my Spock-like demeanor and I allowed them to breach the fortress so to speak. And it takes days sometimes to get over this feeling toward someone and if it's not someone I'm close to chances are I'll never speak with the person again

[Proteus]

From an older thread -
My theory is that for a lot of logical types, their anger is so intense because it means they've been made to lose control of their otherwise rational and even-keel composure and go into a heightened emotional state that sometimes slips out of their control. In a sense they "get mad that they're having to get mad" (if that makes sense) and that just exacerbates things all the more.

I am usually able to bottle it up where it will hopefully disperse or be compartmentalized. When it reaches critical mass I typically end up like this-



Though sometimes it does materialize externally. Once not too long ago I punched my monitor so hard it spun around and the power cord popped loose.

[Socrates]

I explode every few months and go into a fit of yelling that lasts a minute or two, then I stay pissed for a few hours and all is well in the world, except a seething bitterness that lasts a few days.

Sometimes I get pissed for a really good reason (like just sitting in someone's house after not seeing them for five years and having them call me a lazy bum, then twist the story so I insulted them first) and don't let it go but don't really get mad. I just sort of laugh it off or ignore it... sometimes, such as the case presented above, I say more than I should.

If I see that guy any time soon, I will tell him what a cowardly lying bully I think he really is. But I'm not mad, not at all.

I deal with the anger from other people usually by laughing or being super chill in contrast to their temper. I'm a stoic, pretty much. That's the way I live.

[AirMarionette]

From an older thread -
My theory is that for a lot of logical types, their anger is so intense because it means they've been made to lose control of their otherwise rational and even-keel composure and go into a heightened emotional state that sometimes slips out of their control. In a sense they "get mad that they're having to get mad" (if that makes sense) and that just exacerbates things all the more.

I am usually able to bottle it up where it will hopefully disperse or be compartmentalized. When it reaches critical mass I typically end up like this- Though sometimes it does materialize externally. Once not too long ago I punched my monitor so hard it spun around and the power cord popped loose.

You pretty much summed up my case - anger pisses me off and it is the most difficult emotion for me to control (also surprisingly exhilarating). I sustain a good amount, and the subsequent eruption results in childish outbursts that expose embarrassing irrationality.

I groan, hit and throw things, too; always have been kind of belligerent...

[Socrates]

Example:

Christmas 2009 at my uncle's house. My fourteen year old nephew tells me that my uncle isn't feeling well (which I had already noticed), and tells me I should go make him feel better... as I am often the only one who can. Long backstory; I saved his life about twelve years ago or so.

I said "no" just to defy him ordering me to do something... and he steals my DS... my only entertainment. I was in a heated battle on Pokemon Soul Silver, so obviously this pissed me off quite a bit. I punched at him and missed, he attacks me back, I get him once in the stomach really hard and take back my DS... I stand up and shout "I COULD KILL YOU! I COULD KILL YOU RIGHT HERE FOR THAT."

I went outside following this to just walk it off and my sister, realizing it was his fault and everyone was (surprisingly) on my side, takes my nephew home. I spent the rest of the night cheering up my uncle, who was dealing with the beginning of a kidney stone attack.

The cast:
14 y/o nephew – ENTP (doh ho ho)
35 y/o sister – ENFJ
60+ y/o uncle – ISFJ
60+ y/o aunt – ISFJ

The reasons why I can cheer him up are a bit complicated. First and foremost, I believe, I've never asked him for anything. Everyone loves to depend on him because of his wealth (multi-millionaire), but I have not and will not ask him for anything. Secondly, I saved his life. Third, I legitimately like talking to him. He's not exactly the most thrilling character, but he is a very interesting guy and probably my favorite close relative.

[AnnaKatherine]

I'm a door slammer & tend to just yell at who ever is available. That's how I deal with anger. I always fell sorry for those that happen to cross my path during that time. Anger is a pretty simple for me to deal with. It's sadness & extreme stress that I have difficulty dealing with.

[Ben]

I brood and get really quiet for a while. Every now and then I explode. It would be funny if I weren't the one going through it.

[NeedsNewNameNow]

Usually I withdraw and try to determine whether my anger is an overreaction. If I decide it isn't, then I'll usually confront the person somehow. Usually after enough time to calm down.

But yeah, on occasion I'll be pushed too far and explode, and it is scary! Nobody expects it from me.

[SomeWeirdGuy]

You pretty much summed up my case - anger pisses me off and it is the most difficult emotion for me to control (also surprisingly exhilarating). I sustain a good amount, and the subsequent eruption results in childish outbursts that expose embarrassing irrationality.

I groan, hit and throw things, too; always have been kind of belligerent...

I am just like this. Not a little bit similar, absolutely the same.

[R2-D2]

not so well these days, i'm afraid... had a really bad experience at work recently and ended up yelling and cursing and walking out on someone i work with. i had way too much built up and it exploded, and things are icy between us now. i would like to have nothing to do with the person again, but of course that's unrealistic. i really ought to figure out how to handle these things better.

how does everyone else here handle damage control? or do you just let the chips fall where they may?