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  1. #11
    INTP - The Thinkers

    It it is constructive criticism from someone who cares and knows what they are talking about it, I will take it under advisement. I welcome it and won't get angry.

    If it is unfair, mean or baseless, I'm more likely to get angry.

  2. #12
    INTP - The Thinkers

    Depends on loads of stuff. I am very good at reading people's emotions, so it's immediately obvious to me if a person criticizes me because something really bothers them about me, and they would like me to change it, or whether they're simply trying to get to me, or try to put me down in order to feel better about themselves..if it's the latter case, I just turn into a rock and ignore them completely-or if they push it, I turn on the sarcasm on them.

    If it's the first case, well..
    I feel hurt when it comes from people who don't see eye to eye with me-people who are just completely different personalities, because it makes me feel more alone and misunderstood/unappreciated.
    When it comes from the very few people whose judgments I trust and respect, I listen carefully and try to fix the problems they point to.

    I generally ignore the same criticisms over and over again, though, when they just make no sense to me. Like, in high school, I got clinically depressed by the 10th grade, and started to be late for class almost every day, and my classmates started criticizing me for it.
    I just ignored them completely, and didn't take it to heart if they treated me like I was somehow "embarrassing", simply because they were way more embarrassing than I was-the difference was they were the majority, and supported each others' stupidities.
    But from a purely logical perspective nobody in that class gave a damn about studying-and I mean NOBODY, and they had the nerve to criticize me for being late-God forbid I should break their focus while they were polishing their nails in the back seats of the class!
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  3. #13
    INTP - The Thinkers

    Quote Originally Posted by username View Post
    Sometimes it's hard on me because I try to decide if what they are saying about me is true or not. Sometimes it's very hard for me to see. Because I want so badly to know if there is truth in what they say, I can reflect on it for long periods of time and make myself a nervous wreck.
    This is true for me. I dislike having to view the world through a lens of subjectivity, where I interpret everything that happens in terms of my own paranoia/biases/assumptions. I wish I could be more objective and use Ne more effectively so I can better discriminate between meaningful and worthless criticism.

    I get irrationally angry at irrational deconstructive criticism, like ad hominem attacks. I like fairness. Illogic makes me MAD. I once got really into researching the gay rights issue, and came across a lot of homophobic comments that were so illogical they pissed me off. I've since learnt to simply turn a blind eye to such criticism - no amount of reasoning can overcome emotion-based prejudice.

    As for other types of criticism... sometimes I react to criticism like a terrified child getting a scolding -- I get an urge to improve on whatever was criticized so I can gain the adult's approval, to rectify the mistake so I can avoid this feeling in the future, the feeling that I've done something terribly wrong. It depends on what's being criticized and the tone that was used. A stern tone with concealed disapproval really makes me a nervous wreck. The more it wrecks me on the inside, the more emotionless and detached I become on the outside.

  4. #14
    Unknown Personality

    Quote Originally Posted by daedaln View Post
    Just really interested to know, because I am very affected by criticism and I tend to mull over it for ages and be very upset about it.
    Depends on if the criticizer knows what they are talking about as well.

  5. #15
    INTP - The Thinkers

    As was said before there are a lot of factors. I doubt there is anyone alive who enjoys criticism. One thing I don't do is try to make lame excuses for whatever it is I've done. I see people do that all the time and it just makes them look stupid. Usually I'll just say "Ok I see your point". Then I'll consider the authority, their knowledge of the situation and if the criticism is fair and constructive. Then I'll either ignore it or attempt to take action to correct the situation.
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  6. #16
    INTP - The Thinkers

    I hardly take anything personally. If it's good advice, I'll consider listening to it. If someone's just talking crap about something they have absolutely no idea, it's already forgotten.

  7. #17
    INTP - The Thinkers

    Quote Originally Posted by darth candy View Post
    I either take it as constructive criticism or I get enraged and crush the persons self esteem or I ignore it.
    I just laughed till I cried when I saw this, party because it's ridiculous, and party because I could see myself saying the same thing. Thanks for the laugh =)

  8. #18
    INTP - The Thinkers

    Depends if I asked them to or not - if I didn't, I ignore them and if I did, I put it into whatever I needed it for.

  9. #19
    INTJ - The Scientists

    When it's a person that I'm really close to, like a close friend or a sibling, I outright tell them in their faces that I don't deserve that kind of criticism, I'm not that stupid, etc. But when it's a person I don't really know and they still indirectly criticize me, I would really get worked up but never tell them directly that I don't deserve it. Usually, that feeling goes away with time, but I usually can't think of anything else when that happens. And it takes a long time, and a very forceful thing to replace that feeling so that I don't end up internally killing myself. So yeah, basically, I ABHOR criticism. And most of the times, I don't deserve it.

  10. #20
    ISTP - The Mechanics

    It only hurts if I can take it as I'm not good enough at something from someone I feel is qualified to make such a judgement.


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