I have been hooking up with this guy, and I really like him but am not sure if he actually likes me or just sees me as a friend with benefits.
I'm an INTP and I don't know what he is.
My birthday is coming up, and I don't know many people in this town because I just moved here. I am wondering whether I should ask him to hang out for my bday, or if he is the one who is supposed to ask me out for my bday .. and if he doesn't ask me then that means he doesn't care? We talked about it a bit .. here is what was said:
A week or so ago I mentioned that my birthday is coming up and I want to have a party but only know three people in the city, including him. He commented that I should invite them three, and they could each bring five people, and it would be a 15 person mixer and it'll be fun.
Then this week, I asked if he has plans this weekend, because I might be going out of town next weekend for my birthday so this weekend is the last time I can hang out before I leave. He said he has plans with family this weekend and asked when I am leaving. I said Wednesday, and he said he probably can't hang out before I leave then because he has exams.
I said it's okay. He asked where I'm going. I said I might be going out of town to visit my sister in Italy because I am scared to be out here all by myself for my birthday. But then the next day I told him that plan is cancelled because I wasn't able to find tickets. Then he said "well this town is no Italy, but I'm sure it'll still be a great birthday!"
And that got me worried because ... I was expecting him to say something like "well if you're staying in town let's hang out!" or suggest that we do something. But he didn't suggest that, and what he said sounds more like "well have fun with whatever you end up doing" to me. So it makes me feel like he doesn't care to celebrate it with me....and that kind of hurts so I'm wondering if I should even bother asking him to hang out. I don't want to ask if he doesn't care ... :(
What do you think about his response to me saying I'm staying in town?