I was raised by an ISTJ mother who rarely ever showed her true feelings to us. She always tried to appear stern and firm, but because of stressors in her life, sometimes she would just break down and cry because she could no longer hold it in. My older brother (ESTP) would immediately comfort her and try to console her (he would hug her, hold her, let her cry in his arms). Sometimes, he would even cry with her. But when it came to me, I would just stand at a distance and watch. I would not feel anything expect confusion as to what I was supposed to do. My brother would sometimes yell at me to hug her and (against my will) I would. She would hug me and I would sit there, stiff as a board. I even felt disgusted when her tears landed on my skin.
Now, as an adult, this is still true. The only difference is that my family is used to me now. My mother even recently cracked a joke about how I would stand far away whenever someone was in distress. I am rarely ever shocked when someone screams, I am hardly ever moved by the plight of another, and I'm still disgusted by tears. All I can think to do is tell people how to fix their problem.
Can any other INTJs relate to this?