How does one get close to you specifically?

**Vexed** · 05-20-2012 11:48 PM

Not physically.

I realize most posts will be subjective so feel free to indulge in Fi.

**kaleidoscope** · 05-20-2012 11:56 PM

You mean you haven't purchased the new INTJ trap 3.0?

Just don't let them out of it for exactly two weeks (the new version has embedded cushions), practice repeated exposure of yourself to them and desensitization will occur eventually.

**Vexed** · 05-20-2012 11:59 PM

Originally Posted by kaleidoscope

You mean you haven't purchased the new INTJ trap 3.0?

No. I bought the INTJ whistle but I don't know if it works since I can't hear it.

**kaleidoscope** · 05-21-2012 12:03 AM

Originally Posted by Vexed

No. I bought the INTJ whistle but I don't know if it works since I can't hear it.

Dammit. I need to get the new INTJ catalog!

**krviking** · 05-21-2012 12:34 AM

Sincerity, mostly. Someone with a general vibe of competence is nice too. And wifi.

**crferguson** · 05-21-2012 12:45 AM

It depends on the context...friends, co-workers, family... All are close but some are closer than others. Family is the closest for obvious reasons. I'm very selective about close friends, but that is probably most people and most MBTI types (if not all). Even extroverted people probably have friends who are closer than others.

**Spear** · 05-21-2012 12:50 AM

Be interesting and talk about meaningful things. As in I don't care which soccer team won or what you had for breakfast.

**Near** · 05-21-2012 04:05 AM

@Vexed

Is this related to what we talked about? I remember a conversation.

To answer your question, you have to take a no nonsense approach, just be real. We value practicalities.
The stereotype of "The practical guy" is dead-on when it comes to INTJ's, at least that's what I think when I think of myself.

Also, getting close to someone like that is so very slow in this context, you can't expect anything in short terms.

**LittlexLady07** · 05-21-2012 05:55 AM

In echoing the "be real" sentiment, I say just be yourself. Corny, yes, but INTJs value sincerity and, furthermore, can often sense when a person is being fake in some way a mile off. Also, I don't really want to tell you specifically what to say/do because I don't want any interpersonal relationship to begin with a false-start, so-to-speak. (False-start meaning I tell you how to approach an INTJ, you do that, the INTJ wants further contact with you, but how you behaved in that initial reaction wasn't really YOU, and therefore you and that INTJ might not get along long-term. The INTJ in said interaction will have potentially wasted his/her time)

Either you'll click with us and get close or you won't. It can't be manufactured. If it's any consolation, mature INTJs aren't nearly as rude/frightening as some may think.

**Flora** · 05-21-2012 06:12 AM

With the first purchase from the INTJ catalogue you get a voucher and a free how to care for your INTJ guide. In the first chapters they explain the technique to let them approach you. You have to leave a few berries closer and closer to your house and wait until the INTJ feels secure enough to get them. Don't contact the INTJ directly at this stage or you will frighten it off. Act detached and nonchalant in its presence and be patient as it's important the INTJ thinks it's all his idea. They have a different sense of time than other creatures, so be patient.

I wouldn't bother with the 3.0 version of the trap, the upgrade is aimed at ENFPs, try to go on ebay for an older version.