Hey INTJs, my best friend and husband is an INTJ as well and Ive realized some deeper qualities inside him that arent really mentioned often. Just wanted to see if anyone here could relate to them :)
You can be mistaken as conceited, because you look serious and quite intense. You dont do small talk and seem hard to please but you just dont believe in empty conversation, and being in groups with such people drains you. BUT you are not robotic or socially awkward. Youre not rude and obnoxious. You guys just are really intense...until you become close to someone. Which is really rare.
You become shamelessly witty, teasing, kind, and still overall really, really intelligent. What I admire most about my husband is his ability to be SO logical. You guys are really calculated and I feel bad for inauthentic people because you see right through them and find them amusing. You know exactly who and what you want in your life and never lower your standards or try to win people.
And I dont get this whole marrying an INTJ could be difficult thing. That you guys dont show feelings and are "cold". I think you guys are just misunderstood there. I think once an INTJ really REALLY feels connected to you, trusts you, and admires you, he/she show it. But never much in public. They dont like to disapoint people theyre close to. Theyre perfectionists and trust the opinion of those really close to them...but not always believe them. But they evaluate their own selves a lot so they dont mind criticism or real advice on improving themselves.
But you guys really go hard on yourselves when you make a mistake. Or make someone you love upset.
Oh and although you guys are very good at reading people when learning about them, you arent so good at indirect talk. You prefer straightforwardness. You dont mind blunt honesty and directness.
Im sorry if im boring you guys right now I just really adore my INTJ and felt like sharing what I discovered :)
Hmm also you guys can get obsessed about things youre really interested in and you show it.
Youre great at problem solving. You dont do worrying or anxiety. You solve issues logically and then thats it. If things go wrong you find a plan B . If things go wrong because you failed though you feel really bad. You guys dont like failing at all :)
Which is another reason why I think many find you guys egotistical. But the truth is youre perfectionists and put so much pressure on yourselves.
When dealing with lots of pressure you guys become very analytical and cold. I joke with him about this often. Here you guys become like robots. Your minds go into this overdrive and you work on it in your head until you puzzle things out well, then you are back to normal :)
Sooo ya I think thats enough for now. Carry on being your awesome selves.