An INTJ Roommate

**Lilykit** · 01-16-2012 06:29 AM

So, my roommate is fairly clearly an INTJ, and I'm INFJ. We rarely communicate, since we both prefer to sit quietly at our desks on our computers. But ... our sleep schedules are completely different. Well, not completely. We both got to bed around midnight, but I wake up at 8 or earlier in the morning. She sleeps until 10:30. I get on my computer when I wake up, and I try to be quiet, but I'm worried that my typing is disturbing her. She keeps rolling over. Would this disturb an INTJ? How would she express it? What can I do to make her more comfortable?

**nonnaci** · 01-16-2012 06:37 AM

Ask her and be rewarded

**Pete The Lich** · 01-16-2012 07:02 AM

Awww you're so considerate
If something was truly bothering an INTJ they would let you know what's up
What time do you wake up?
And as mentioned before
Just ask... No harm done

**knittigan** · 01-16-2012 07:07 AM

If you bring it up and ask her how she feels about it, I'm sure that she'll really appreciate it. I'm a light sleeper, too, and generally we understand that it's difficult for the entire world to accommodate us at every moment of every day, but if we know that you're trying, it does a lot to mediate any anger/annoyance. Chances are, since it's only typing and not music/Skype/explosions, etc. it will probably be okay. Just reach out. It will mean a lot to her if it is something that bothers her because it's possible that, if it does, she knows it would be silly to yell at you for but might not know how to bring it up in a non-confrontational way.

I wish the people I lived with first/second year were even one iota as considerate as you are!

**lib** · 01-16-2012 08:11 AM

Originally Posted by Lilykit

...we both prefer to sit quietly at our desks on our computers.

Flat screens & ultra-flat keyboards?

**Lilykit** · 01-16-2012 08:26 AM

Thanks, everyone. @PeteTheZombie, I wake up around 8, usually. When classes are in session, I wake up earlier.

I did talk to her about it when she woke up, and she told me it was just her waking up in the morning but refusing to get up. I always worry about the little things that turn out to be nothing.

**SpiralOut** · 01-16-2012 10:05 AM

It may be bothersome to her but not bothersome enough for her to bring it up with you. The rolling over thing...it may very well be a non-verbal "take a hint". I have done things like that when people were keeping me up.

I have an INFJ roommate and he does the same kind of thing (except being noisy late at night). I don't bring it up with him because it doesn't bother me enough for me to make it a "thing". ASK her about it. I wish my roommate would.

**Figure** · 01-16-2012 10:11 AM

If I was your roommate, simply being asked would be enough to rationalize/forget about it even if it was bothering me before being asked. Though there is a chance that it isn't really bothering her at all. Either way, if you've asked about it, you've probably solved the problem.

**hoom** · 01-16-2012 10:13 AM

Buy a mechanical keyboard.

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**LittlexLady07** · 01-16-2012 11:43 AM

I can't speak for all INTJs (I'm an enneagram 8w9 which might explain the following) but in the vast majority of instances, if someone is irritating or bothering me in some way that person will know it because I have (diplomatically) said so. If this answer doesn't satisfy you, then I suggest that you just ask. I think it's kind of..sweet..that you're so considerate of others and therefore would likely appreciate you asking even if it didn't bother me.