[Audrey]

How do you feel when some one criticizes or insults you?
Do you ever get offended?
If so, what is the main cause?
If not, how do you avoid it?



For me, I generally do not get offended. I avoid this by analyzing where the person comes from, realizing why they said what they did, and then disregarding it. I see the root of most public insults (towards the self and others) as natural human insecurity, and people trying to prove themselves or place themselves above others. So I generally view the situation from a psychological view, and thus regard it as silly humans.

I am curious though, how do you all react?

[kikidmonkey]

I mostly don't react. And when I do, I usually laugh in their face if they are TRYING to insult me. It's just so adorable.

To be offended I have to actually care about what that person thinks of me, and as of right now, I think there may be about three people in my life whom I actually care what they think.

[Das Brechen]

At work, it's typically a slight annoyance followed by analysis if it's grounded on fact.

In public, it doesn't even register.

[FlaylexFayte]

It depends entirely on what it is that they are criticizing/insulting.

As a Graphic Designer it's pretty much my job to receive criticism so I know how to take it. I will look at it, analyze it, figure out whether or not it has any merit and then decide whether or not to apply it.

When being insulted, it also depends. Sometimes I laugh if they have no idea what they're saying. Most of the time it's frustration at being unable to get the person to stop. It depends, though, because it takes a lot for me to be insulted. It's hard to insult a person who really knows themselves, because if you call them a "whore" and they know they're NOT one, then "whore" just becomes another word.

[End of Hypnosis]

How do you feel when some one criticizes or insults you?

It's the intention that matters to me. Insults are made to offend, criticism is for development. Insults matter to me only if they are coming out of their mouth of somebody I truly care about, criticism gives me more reasons for introspection to figure out the reasons for the person's deduction. In short: Unless a person I value is set out to hurt me personally with an insult, it's more room for development.

Do you ever get offended?

Only if the insult is completely unfounded. Criticism I am open for, since it's not an attack and I am hard to offend in that aspect.


If so, what is the main cause?

Swear words like "bitch" or "asshole" don't bother me, not because I think I am those things [ because I don't, actually], but because they're always thrown around. It depends on who's mouth it comes out of most of all.


If not, how do you avoid it?

I look at all the reasons for the person's deduction, if it is sound then I likely won't be offended.

[Entangle]

When criticized or insulted, I rarely get offended as I see it as merely one viewpoint.

I usually DO see merit in the criticism I receive, so commonly I thank the person.

I am more likely to be offended if the source is a person close to me and the criticism is extreme in terms of being totally unfair or meant to hurt.

[Abx]

How do you feel when some one criticizes or insults you?
Do you ever get offended?
If so, what is the main cause?
If not, how do you avoid it?

How do you feel when some one criticizes or insults you?
Depends on the person...If they have no values for me, then it won't bothers me at all.
Do you ever get offended?
Depends on the situations.
If so, what is the main cause?
Insult.
If not, how do you avoid it?
I'll just ignore them or walk away.

[Falan]

Standard response to insults: "Why, thank you!"
It's hilarious to see the look on their faces, followed by "No wait, that's not what I meant...", followed by trying to explain they've attempted to insult me. Either that or they sputter and steam and eventually go away.

Criticism: Depends. If it's constructive and useful, or just pointing out I'm doing something stupid, I'll generally just use it to improve. However, this depends on my ability to recognize the criticism as such. If it's negative, I'll generally ignore it. If I'm in a bad mood, I might get annoyed or defensive.

It also depends who the criticism is coming from. Random individuals or those that criticize as a primary means of communication (my mother) are ignored. I don't care enough about their opinion. If I do care enough about an individual and their opinion of me, I can be entirely over-sensitive to their criticism.

[Riverlioness]

Criticism: Not much of a problem. If it's of value, I absorb it. If it's incoherent, I ignore it.
Insults: I tell the person how immature they are acting.

[ThisAnonymous]

I think I have somehow gotten to the point where both of them just bounce off of me and I do not even think of them as offensive. Sure, insults tend to be a little nasty sometimes, but I'm not the one wasting five minutes of my life trying to make someone feel less of a person, am I?

As for criticism, I feel that it is better received if it were constructive and I sense that the person is not trying to mock me in any way. Other than that, my reaction is non-existent. There is no point getting angry over someone who is insecure or doesn't understand the full situation. On the other hand, I try to understand why they are saying what they are saying.

Ultimately, all less-than-friendly encounters usually are caused by someone having a bad day. Because I had no part in that bad day, whether or not I will ever see that person again, I refuse to let it ruin my day.