5 Stages of INTJ annoyance

**Aaron Boal** · 10-23-2011 05:15 AM

Originally Posted by Green Girl

My theory on how INTJs deal with someone who annoys them and won't go away. I did my research by reading the fionafiona threads.

1st stage: polite, but brief.
2nd stage: avoidance
3rd stage: sacrcasm
4th stage: flight, pleas to be left alone, and more sarcasm
5th stage: attack mode. Acceptance that destroying the annoyance is the only solution.

This is dead on for me. I am normally polite, but when they start to get really annoying, I will usually go straight to stage 3. People close to me that should know me get stage 4 right away.

**Perhaps** · 10-23-2011 08:19 AM

Two and three will switch positions depending on the type and degree of annoyance experienced, but that's pretty accurate for me too.

**knght990** · 10-23-2011 08:26 AM

Funny thread

**Popinjay** · 10-23-2011 10:10 PM

Originally Posted by Green Girl

My theory on how INTJs deal with someone who annoys them and won't go away. I did my research by reading the fionafiona threads.

1st stage: polite, but brief.
2nd stage: avoidance
3rd stage: sacrcasm
4th stage: flight, pleas to be left alone, and more sarcasm
5th stage: attack mode. Acceptance that destroying the annoyance is the only solution.

I have three stages:

Stage 1: Someone annoys me mildly. I treat them the same as a non-annoyer.

Stage 2: Someone annoys me significantly. I avoid them physically and ignore their calls/e-mails/etc.

Stage 3: Someone doesn't get the hint: I tell them directly that they are irritating me. If they repent of their ways, they drop back to Stage 1. If they do not repent, I cut them off permanently or until substantive repentance.

I don't use sarcasm much anymore IRL in my communications, except with friends. I find almost no one grasps it, so I feel like I'm being passive-aggressive. I'd rather ignore them unless they persist, in which case I'll be direct and tell them to fuck off.

**FatMickHead** · 10-25-2011 08:52 AM

I live in stage 2. Stage 1 is a waste of time. If you find me despite my clear avoidance of you, it's straight to DEFCON 5.

**Humoriarty** · 10-25-2011 07:34 PM

Burn them, not with wit or sarcasm but with fire!

**Ice Ghost** · 10-27-2011 12:00 PM

Usually, the 2nd stage gets the job done for me. I'm very good at avoiding people.

**Quinault NDN** · 10-27-2011 04:04 PM

Concise. However, my stage 4 tends to be "make them cry" and I generally don't "plead". It isn't the same as Stage 5 destruction--it is more like a mini-warning that I am not nice.