[amethyst_butterfly]

Is that you my love? Haha kidding......INTJ men are sexy and intriguing but take life too seriously. You need to take a look at your surroundings and pay attention to those little hints that say a lot. If the girl smiles at you is because she likes you, dont run away from her for God's sake. I haven't seen my crush face to face in days and I am starting to feel like bleh. I have been thinking of him like crazy in the past days but I am getting tired of it. I bet he only thinks of me when I am right in front of him and that's it. TJs are like that, when they are sure someone is not for them they immediately get them out of their heads, not like INFPs who INFatuate very easily. The last time I saw him was in the lab I work. He came to get results from a patient. I immediately recognized him by his voice, i stopped what i was doing and peeked through the door to assure it was him and went out to see him. I stood in front of him watching my supervisor help him. He stopped talking and looked at me like huh? I smiled and he smiled back. Some lady came to the lab so I had to help her, and I noticed he distanced himsekf from me and he was like hiding, close to the door to exit. He told my supervisor he was going to come at 3 because the results were not ready at the moment. He later came to the lab during my lunch time at 11 am to get results from a second patient. I recognized him by his voice again but this time I was too full to get up lol plus I did not felt like doing work during lunch time, so my supervisor helped him. I could not see him but I could hear him I noticed that he knew he was there and he was talking in this strong and confident voice like if he wanted me to hear him. My supervisor gave him the results of both patients so he did not had to come back at 3. When he said good bye I noticed by the sound of his voice that he was sad. I was going to get up to see him after finishing my meal but it was too late. Did he came again to the lab at a earlier time as an excuse to see me? This remains a mystery but my strong intuitive powers are telling me so. Since the beginning I've a feeling that he must think I am cute because of the way he looks at me. He smiled at me once when we crossed paths, but then weeks later he comes to the lab to get results and I get closer to him and he distanced himself from like like I had a disease lol. He feel more comfortable getting close to my 50 year old supervisor. I still talked to him a bit and he responded to me.


Bah at this point I think he has forgotten about me...........

I try to get non verbal clues from this guy but it ain't easy. Is hard to figure you guy out. I though you were less shy than us.

Hey, do I work with you? That sound almost exactly like me with the girl I have a crush on.

I thought she had a thing for me when it seems like she was always looking at me in a meeting we both attend. (Granted, I noticed because I kept looking at her!) I'm guessing there are other times when I so lost in thought I haven't seen her. INTJs are notorious for getting lost in their thoughts and having a strong powers of concentration.

When I cross near her, I try to smile at her from a distance, which she returns. I don't feel comfortable visiting her for purely social visits, so I go over there work related purposes. Then after I finish the work related portion I feel uncomfortable and leave. I've actually noticed that I back out a second before the conversation ends. I've got to kill my reflexes and second thoughts ask her to lunch again.

[antiant]

LOL! My god, so much fail here. Words can't even begin to describe.

[amethyst_butterfly]

.......................lolz

LOL! My god, so much fail here. Words can't even begin to describe.

[searcheagle]

Is that you my love?

Sweet Butterfly, I'm really not comfortable just jumping the whole way to the "love" word already. Let's give it some time and develop naturally.

Haha kidding......INTJ men are sexy and intriguing but take life too seriously.

In my personal experiments, the evidence is still out on the first statement. Also, we don't take life to seriously. You take life to lightly!

You need to take a look at your surroundings and pay attention to those little hints that say a lot. If the girl smiles at you is because she likes you, dont run away from her for God's sake.

That just sounds so simple but it's so easy to overthink! But for an INTJ, anything can be overthought and over analyzed. Especially, when I get mixed signals (which I left out of my earlier example).

I haven't seen my crush face to face in days and I am starting to feel like bleh. I have been thinking of him like crazy in the past days but I am getting tired of it. I bet he only thinks of me when I am right in front of him and that's it. TJs are like that, when they are sure someone is not for them they immediately get them out of their heads, not like INFPs who INFatuate very easily.

I can't speak for all INTJs but I can for this one. I do have the tendency to idealize a girl i THINK is a perfect match. And while the TJ concentration does come into play, the inherent INTJ ADD brings random subjects to mind, like crushes, in idle minutes.

The last time I saw him was in the lab I work. He came to get results from a patient. I immediately recognized him by his voice, i stopped what i was doing and peeked through the door to assure it was him and went out to see him. I stood in front of him watching my supervisor help him. He stopped talking and looked at me like huh? I smiled and he smiled back. Some lady came to the lab so I had to help her, and I noticed he distanced himsekf from me and he was like hiding, close to the door to exit. He told my supervisor he was going to come at 3 because the results were not ready at the moment. He later came to the lab during my lunch time at 11 am to get results from a second patient. I recognized him by his voice again but this time I was too full to get up lol plus I did not felt like doing work during lunch time, so my supervisor helped him. I could not see him but I could hear him I noticed that he knew he was there and he was talking in this strong and confident voice like if he wanted me to hear him. My supervisor gave him the results of both patients so he did not had to come back at 3. When he said good bye I noticed by the sound of his voice that he was sad. I was going to get up to see him after finishing my meal but it was too late. Did he came again to the lab at a earlier time as an excuse to see me? This remains a mystery but my strong intuitive powers are telling me so. Since the beginning I've a feeling that he must think I am cute because of the way he looks at me. He smiled at me once when we crossed paths, but then weeks later he comes to the lab to get results and I get closer to him and he distanced himself from like like I had a disease lol. He feel more comfortable getting close to my 50 year old supervisor. I still talked to him a bit and he responded to me.

Bah at this point I think he has forgotten about me...........

No idea whether this is true in your case or not, but I have a tendency to stop by and visit only people I have a legitimate excuse to visit. Esp, if I think the person is really concentrating on work. Its rude to take us out of our world!

I try to get non verbal clues from this guy but it ain't easy. Is hard to figure you guy out. I though you were less shy than us.

What do you mean shy? If you want to challenge us in a battle of wit? Or in debate, we're unstoppable. In the world of thoughts, we are the kings. And we know it.

We work to do what we think is right, regardless of how many hurt feelings it creates. Which works fine.... until we try to be human and do something that requires feelings! And love certainly is one of those areas where we tend to feel like Little league Baseball players going against an NFL Football team. We're not sure how we ended up on the field. We're not sure why we wanted on the field in the first place. Nor do we know what to do once we get out there!

[Sanskrit]

Is that you my love? Haha kidding......INTJ men are sexy and intriguing but take life too seriously.

Yes, I am both venerated and vilified for my utmost seriousness and lack of sense of humour. Why, I could swear I've never told a single joke or lighthearted comment. Just ask anyone.





[](/ohhi)

[amethyst_butterfly]

Thanks for taking the time to explain what goes through your head. You seem to be complicated creatures, though in the exterior but soft on the inside. You guys are brutally honest which can be intimidating but I admire that you have the balls to not care what others think. Is nice to know that you get shy around girls you like, is kind of cute. Well that guy is not going to be for a long time at the hospital I am working. I was told be was going to be there for just 6 months or a year I can't remember, at least I have a cute guy to check out at work and day dream about because work can't get boring.

You say you invited her out for lunch, wow that is a good start.

Take care.

Sweet Butterfly, I'm really not comfortable just jumping the whole way to the "love" word already. Let's give it some time and develop naturally.

In my personal experiments, the evidence is still out on the first statement. Also, we don't take life to seriously. You take life to lightly!

That just sounds so simple but it's so easy to overthink! But for an INTJ, anything can be overthought and over analyzed. Especially, when I get mixed signals (which I left out of my earlier example).

I can't speak for all INTJs but I can for this one. I do have the tendency to idealize a girl i THINK is a perfect match. And while the TJ concentration does come into play, the inherent INTJ ADD brings random subjects to mind, like crushes, in idle minutes.

No idea whether this is true in your case or not, but I have a tendency to stop by and visit only people I have a legitimate excuse to visit. Esp, if I think the person is really concentrating on work. Its rude to take us out of our world!



What do you mean shy? If you want to challenge us in a battle of wit? Or in debate, we're unstoppable. In the world of thoughts, we are the kings. And we know it.

We work to do what we think is right, regardless of how many hurt feelings it creates. Which works fine.... until we try to be human and do something that requires feelings! And love certainly is one of those areas where we tend to feel like Little league Baseball players going against an NFL Football team. We're not sure how we ended up on the field. We're not sure why we wanted on the field in the first place. Nor do we know what to do once we get out there!

[searcheagle]

Thanks for taking the time to explain what goes through your head. You seem to be complicated creatures, though in the exterior but soft on the inside. You guys are brutally honest which can be intimidating but I admire that you have the balls to not care what others think. Is nice to know that you get shy around girls you like, is kind of cute.

Hey- you can't say that we're soft. You'll ruin the reputation that we spent all our lives building up!

Hmm... Complicated? We're logical... You guys are the complicated ones. ;)

In at least my experience, reputation is every important to me. Therefore, I want to some degree to control my image. Part of how I control my image is by keeping my personal life-personal. To the outside world, I like to present a cool, collected image and frequently that is presented as our emotionless presentation. Among people I trust, I don't feel the need to protect my image. After all, you know me.

The brutally honest thing is a double edged sword. We love it due to its efficiency (saves time by eliminating fluff) but among more sensitive people, it can create resent-which we frequently don't recognize. Or later have to figure out how to come back from it.

Part of being an INTJ is that we value logical/fact based analysis over feelings. Part of that means making unpopular decisions, but decisions which we consider right. Among immature INTJs, this can be done insensitively but mature INTJs can handle the situation much more delicately. We more or less just think we are telling the truth and are surprised more people don't do.

But around girls, it becomes much more complicated. Logical analysis is frequently done by math but there are no mathematical formulas on how successful a relationship will be. Or what she REALLY thinks. Is she just being nice or does she really feel the same way? It really puts us outside our realm. Everything else, we try to find a way to make it analytical. (I have done analytical research on the NFL Video Game Madden.) Almost anything can be analytical---except relationships. Dahhh!

Well that guy is not going to be for a long time at the hospital I am working. I was told be was going to be there for just 6 months or a year I can't remember, at least I have a cute guy to check out at work and day dream about because work can't get boring.

You say you invited her out for lunch, wow that is a good start.

Take care.

Actually, a better start would be if she said yes to a one on one lunch. ;) If I can get that type of a lunch, I'm going try to get a ROI (Return on Investment) by turning it into a date shortly there after. (And yes, I really do think in terms like this.)

--I'm going to guess that you find that cute as well. ;) !

[bionic]

I just lost 2 brain cells after skimming through this thread. I need to find a brain surgeon now.....

[amethyst_butterfly]

Ok ok hold your horses, you are being too full of yourself now. iNTJs may be the most logical, but not the coolest of the bunch ;)

Hey- you can't say that we're soft. You'll ruin the reputation that we spent all our lives building up!

Hmm... Complicated? We're logical... You guys are the complicated ones. ;)

In at least my experience, reputation is every important to me. Therefore, I want to some degree to control my image. Part of how I control my image is by keeping my personal life-personal. To the outside world, I like to present a cool, collected image and frequently that is presented as our emotionless presentation. Among people I trust, I don't feel the need to protect my image. After all, you know me.

The brutally honest thing is a double edged sword. We love it due to its efficiency (saves time by eliminating fluff) but among more sensitive people, it can create resent-which we frequently don't recognize. Or later have to figure out how to come back from it.

Part of being an INTJ is that we value logical/fact based analysis over feelings. Part of that means making unpopular decisions, but decisions which we consider right. Among immature INTJs, this can be done insensitively but mature INTJs can handle the situation much more delicately. We more or less just think we are telling the truth and are surprised more people don't do.

But around girls, it becomes much more complicated. Logical analysis is frequently done by math but there are no mathematical formulas on how successful a relationship will be. Or what she REALLY thinks. Is she just being nice or does she really feel the same way? It really puts us outside our realm. Everything else, we try to find a way to make it analytical. (I have done analytical research on the NFL Video Game Madden.) Almost anything can be analytical---except relationships. Dahhh!



Actually, a better start would be if she said yes to a one on one lunch. ;) If I can get that type of a lunch, I'm going try to get a ROI (Return on Investment) by turning it into a date shortly there after. (And yes, I really do think in terms like this.)

--I'm going to guess that you find that cute as well. ;) !

[Popinjay]

iNTJs may be the most logical, but not the coolest of the bunch ;)

*adds amethyst_butterfly to blacklist...FOREVER*