Just in general, opinions, what you think, etc.
This is a discussion on How do/can you tell if an INTJ cares/respect you? within the INTJ Forum - The Scientists forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; Just in general, opinions, what you think, etc....
Just in general, opinions, what you think, etc.
I'll probably make extra fun of you and criticize you a lot.
Seriously. It's sort of like saying "When my dog humps your leg, that means he likes you," only what I do is a lot less fun (for you).
If he or she tells you. . .
They beat your head in with a shovel and tell you to suck it up.
They tell you to go away and stab yourself in your stupid face, then burn your car and give you a wedgie.
Or maybe that's just me.
If they stick around and tolerate your existence, you're doing pretty well.
In all seriousness....
If I was to continue not merely begin conversational intercourse with you. That is, continued discussion on a topic of some depth and profoundness. This is because I haven't either written you off as intellectually shallow (not necessarily in the conventionally negative sense) or plain stupid. Ultimately, I need to view your individual, as it stands separate from externalities, as something unique and valuable - and my own as being able to be appreciated in return. If I care about you, I more than likely want to establish a mutual sharing and eventual coincidence of unique visions - and therefore what I consider the most caring kind of partnership, be it romantic, friendship, or any other kind of bond.
I'll do smalltalk because it's necessary to have some proficiency with it, but if that's all you're getting from me it means I likely think you're a cheesehead.
When I don't bullshit you about how I feel.
You know I respect you when I ask for your opinion about something I'm thinking about. You know I care about you if I initiate spending time with you.
I care when I'm willing to put down the stuff I'm doing, however important, to spend time with/for you.
Respect is when I seek your honest opinion, for an alternative piece of mind, because we rarely consult others
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