[MuChApArAdOx]

What makes you interested to your INTJ?[/B]

I didn't know about MBTI when i met my partner. I was amazed by his brilliance as a thinker, something as a feeler i lacked at that that time. He showed me and helped me understand how to make decisions using logic, how rational thinking was needed during communication. We balance each other. He understands my feelings, and equally respect as a feeler (Me) why i behave the way i do at times. I also bring out the softer side of him, pull him out of his shell for fun times and amusement. He organizes me, keeps me grounded and structured. I listen to his view of the world, his ideas and understand his core. I really need a thinker beside me, he would agree he needs a feeler beside him, we both bring something to the other that we lack. My strengths are his weakness ( socializim, communication ) His strengths are my weakness ( long term planning, structure and organization ).....he is kind, sweet , mature and healthy. This is very attractive .

[MindBomb]

This sums it up:

... is kind, sweet, mature and healthy. This is very attractive.

And good kisses don't hurt either ;)

[lib]

Don't you think having an F girl helps you develop your F-side? As Extravert helps you be more "open" perhaps?

You're assuming I want to develope my F-side. That's not the case.
I don't really want to be more "open". The only motivation I'd have to learn to be more open would be to help me find a girlfriend. Dating an extroverted girl just to make it easier for me to find another girlfriend hardly seems like an honorable thing to do.

[lirulin]

You're assuming I want to develope my F-side. That's not the case.
I don't really want to be more "open". The only motivation I'd have to learn to be more open would be to help me find a girlfriend. Dating an extroverted girl just to make it easier for me to find another girlfriend hardly seems like an honorable thing to do.

This.
I wouldn't want to date someone who wanted to turn me into an extraverted feeler. What a nightmare.

[fievre]

1. What's your partner's (spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend/fiancee) MBTI type?
I am an ISTx (I voted ISTP) dating an INTJ.
2. How's your relationship with them? Do you enjoy it?
It's going pretty well. We've been together thirteen months today. We're both independent and we process a lot of things the same way. My only grievance would be that he leaves almost everything up to me (choosing activities, restaurants, movies, tv, etc.). I very much enjoy my relationship with him.
3. What do you like most from your partner?
He's surprisingly affectionate (primarily physically) and usually very considerate. Overall, we just mesh really well. Our eccentricities are just right for each other.
4. Do you think ENFP and ENTPs really are ideal partner for INTJ? If so, what do you think make ENTPs and ENFP ideal partner for INTJ? If not, why? Not necessarily. There may be a slight trend to support this claim; however, I refuse to believe that MBTII is the end-all be-all expository index for every individual's character on the planet. To rely on such a narrow sketch is to insult to the complexity of the human psyche. Any combination can work.

[Konan]

Right now; there is an INFJ that I like a lot... :)

[femalegamer]

1. What's your partner's (spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend/fiancee) MBTI type?
I am currently seeing an INFJ. I'm days away from finalizing my divorce from an ENTP.

2. How's your relationship with them? Do you enjoy it?
I am currently deliriously happy. :) Some might ascribe that at least partly to being only a couple of months into the relationship, but from my perspective, I'm with someone who doesn't just follow my logic, he follows my logical leaps, someone who understands the why, not just the what.

3. What do you like most from your partner?
I suppose I just covered that. While we aren't always completely in agreement, we seem to always be able to squint a little and see the other's perspective. When we talk, he really does listen to everything I say, and the things that are in the gaps in what I say.

4. Do you think ENFP and ENTPs really are ideal partner for INTJ? If so, what do you think make ENTPs and ENFP ideal partner for INTJ? If not, why?
... I was with an ENTP. What finally drove me away was the lack of planning, the fly by the seat of your pants way of moving through life. I suppose it's possibly that not all ENTPs are that way, but it sounds like a common trait. I like to have a plan, a back-up plan and a contingency plan for my back-up plan, and that just wasn't exciting enough for him.

[Verthani]

Everyone wants different things out of relationships so it may have less to do with type than it seems it would. It might have more to do with having a few of the same functions and a similar world view and goal in life than anything else especially letters. Some people want someone who's really similar to them while other people want someone really different. That's a personal decision that can be based on a lot of things that have more to do with your upbringing than the personality that you're born with.
If your parents were very different you might think that that's the key to a happy or unhappy relationship depending on how theirs went. The opposite could be true as well if they were very similar. Or if you perceive some sort of flaw or weakness within yourself you may either want to cover it with a mate you perceive as being different than you or pick someone like yourself so that the weakness doesn't matter to the relationship.

A big thing that a lot of people overlook though is that you need to be healthy within your type and so does the other person. A lot of divorces or breakups seem to happen when either the functions of the individuals grate on each other or a person continues to grow within their type by learning to use their lesser functions and the other person can't take it or refuses to do the same. If you've grown as a person why would you want to be with someone who won't?

Personally I could pretty much deal with anything except someone with a very strong Fe (totally grates on my nerves more than anything else) and an Si person that refuses to try new things (if they aren't like that then they're fine, but I'd still be reluctant to be more than friends). ENFP's have Fi so they don't actually bother me in that sense. I've had issues with some ENTP's but others were fine. Mostly it depends on how mature the person is.
So in response to your question, I don't think there's anything concrete about the "ideal matches" thing but there are probably types that prefer each other in general. INTJ's don't seem to prefer anyone though so good luck!

[jayde]

1. What's your partner's (spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend/fiancee) MBTI type?

INTP

2. How's your relationship with them? Do you enjoy it?

For the most part, it's excellent. He tends to need a lot of emotional advice/support though, which makes things frustrating for both of us. I don't know how to emotionally support him and he doesn't know how to deal with the fact that I don't know how to emotionally support him.

3. What do you like most from your partner?

He keeps me mentally engaged and he understands what it means to be introverted.

4. Do you think ENFP and ENTPs really are ideal partner for INTJ? If so, what do you think make ENTPs and ENFP ideal partner for INTJ? If not, why?

Apart from I/E, I don't really pay attention to type when it comes to relationships. It's just a matter of how well we get along and what we have in common. In general, I tend to be attracted to other NTs though.

[Persephone]

1. What's your partner's (spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend/fiancee) MBTI type?

Probably INTP, perhaps INTJ, but he displays very strong Ti and not so much in way of Ni. His mode of speech and habits is very much INTP, and he doesn't have the quiet intensity of every INTJ I've ever come across.

2. How's your relationship with them? Do you enjoy it?

I enjoy the intellectual aspect of it, and he's very affectionate, but he falls prey to typical INTP shortcomings and seem socially odd and lacking social awareness.

3. What do you like most from your partner?

That he is as smart, probably smarter than me (and this is very hard for an INTJ to admit!), and is unlike most INTx his age, most of whom have a highly misanthropic streak.

4. Do you think ENFP and ENTPs really are ideal partner for INTJ? If so, what do you think make ENTPs and ENFP ideal partner for INTJ? If not, why?

Nope. Not at all. Whoever thought that needs to get a reality check; INxx partners clearly outnumber ENxx partners. There's no reason to think these types are ideal. I'll grant that they might be good matches, but certainly not the best, if any type can be said to be the best for any other type. I myself have never been attracted to either type.

Don't you think having an F girl helps you develop your F-side? As Extravert helps you be more "open" perhaps?

This is what I found. I never "dated" an INFP, but we were very close friends and I was in love with him. I think he felt the same, but I can never be sure. My mother mentioned that after knowing him I'm smile much more easily and became a more loving person.