[Tahlia]

I was married to an INTJ for years, I can't say it was a happy relationship.

[perennialurker]

The most obvious flaw with this poll, is that it is supposed to be for INTJs and yet there is no option for 'single'.

[Ziwosa]

The most obvious flaw with this poll, is that it is supposed to be for INTJs and yet there is no option for 'single'.

No it would screw over the poll ...
Irrelevant information should be left out.

[MuChApArAdOx]

My intj sister had the same problems with me. I don't think enfp/intj is ideal either. She's with en esfj and they are both extremely happy with each other. She is a much nicer well rounded person because of him.

I totally agree. I don't necessarily believe the ENFP/INTJ partnership is always ideal. It really depends on the ENFP/INTJ in question. My relationship with an INTJ is like clock work, it's wonderful. It doesn't go without boundaries and compromises. It can be exhausting and taxing for both of us at times, although never enough that would lead to failure. We understand and respect what we both need in order to move forward, and besides, he's kisses are simply the best of the best :p

[Eye of the Potato]

I totally agree. I don't necessarily believe the ENFP/INTJ partnership is always ideal. It really depends on the ENFP/INTJ in question. My relationship with an INTJ is like clock work, it's wonderful. It doesn't go without boundaries and compromises. It can be exhausting and taxing for both of us at times, although never enough that would lead to failure. We understand and respect what we both need in order to move forward, and besides, he's kisses are simply the best of the best :p

I wish i actually went out with one just so I'd know but I think they'd be the next best thing. Opposite but speaking the same language. I'd imagine it's kinda nice.

[IncredibleMouse]

I've travelled about 10 pages of this Scientists' Community but I didn't meet any similar threads, so yeah I hope there wasn't any thread like this before.

Starting anew, even if recently duplicated, is quite alright. Ignore those who would otherwise berate your topic re-creation desires.

1. What's your partner's (spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend/fiancee) MBTI type? ISFJ
2. How's your relationship with them? Do you enjoy it? Outstanding. Best thing ever.
3. What do you like most from your partner? Unwavering devotion, honesty, respect, and laughter.
4. Do you think ENFP and ENTPs really are ideal partner for INTJ? If so, what do you think make ENTPs and ENFP ideal partner for INTJ? If not, why? Loaded question, but suffice it to say I can't imagine processing relationship choices through a stereotypical typology classification system, regardless of the preponderance of favorable results. Depends on the person. :)

[MuChApArAdOx]

I wish i actually went out with one just so I'd know but I think they'd be the next best thing. Opposite but speaking the same language. I'd imagine it's kinda nice.

When it's good, its great. When its bad, its miserable. Its been the most intense and challenging relationship i've been in because of the fact we are polar opposites. Our language is like Venus and mars :D....we see the world the same, our means of getting there and moving along are very different. Getting passed all the misunderstanding was not an easy path, yet it was always so challenging and rewarding. We've been together for a long time and still learning. This is what we love the most about each other, just when we finally think we have things figured out, we through each other for a loop :D...it never gets old, it continues to be interesting and challenging. We don't get bored, ever.

[IncredibleMouse]

Even after all this is said...this is only theoretical...I would not actually choose a type to be with...it's the person first, then check to see if they are insane, then check their type....I don't believe you choose a love by type.

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[lirulin]

Even after all this is said...this is only theoretical...I would not actually choose a type to be with...it's the person first, then check to see if they are insane, then check their type....I don't believe you choose a love by type.

Agreed. I would never have picked INFJ if thinking type, but at least he's an odd one so it's going ok. I wouldn't pick ENFP either - a miracle strange atypical ENFP could theoretically wander into my life like happened with the INFJ, but none of my experiences with them would lead me to think of it as a viable, let alone ideal, option when just looking at type. INTJ or ISTJ, ENTJ or maybe INFP would be more plausible for me.

[rereshaneera]

I'm extreme on both I and T so a girl with E and/or F would after some time get on my nerve. Short term any type would be fine but I gathered you meant long term. I suppose if I were extreme on N then it would also be a problem long term but I don't know. I used to think it didn't matter but I've noticed that for many other INTJs it does which is why ENFP is mentioned, and not ESFP, as the ideal partner.

Don't you think having an F girl helps you develop your F-side? As Extravert helps you be more "open" perhaps?

These threads have been done to death already. Who really gives a shit about what someone's partner is? All that matters is if the relationship is good and it works.

I know that your partner shouldn't be judged as ideal or not by MBTI. I just curious about that theory that say INTJ-EN*P is a good match and want to prove if that's true or not.

1. What's your partner's (spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend/fiancee) MBTI type?

INTJ as well - although neither of us knew about MBTI when we met or for the first 8 years of being together.

2. How's your relationship with them? Do you enjoy it?

Very much so - makes for a perfect pairing for us. I was once told by a psychologist (during a psych interview for a job) that our relationship wasn't "emotional" enough and wouldn't last much longer. Well, that was nearly 5 years ago, and we're both still extremely happy. Since neither one of us deals with emotional situations well, neither of us desires or needs that, it makes for a good pairing. We don't mind not being overly interactive except when we choose to be, and neither is offended when one wants alone time.


3. What do you like most from your partner?

Not sure what you're asking here, hopefully the answer above works.

4. Do you think ENFP and ENTPs really are ideal partner for INTJ? If so, what do you think make ENTPs and ENFP ideal partner for INTJ? If not, why?

I don't know that there is any one "type" that is ideal - I could never deal with an extrovert over time, they would drive me insane. Feelers I definitely cannot deal with at home - I need sanctuary in my house, not to drag in problems. I have some ENFP and ENTP friends, and they make good friends for me, but we are far from "best" friends, and I would not want to be in a relationship with any of them.

Like I said, DH and I didn't know about MBTI before we met, or even for years afterwards. Finding someone who fits what you need in a partner is far more important. It may have worked out well for us since in typical fashion for me, I over analyzed all aspects of what I wanted/needed in someone, and then literally sat down with my list after dating someone for a couple months to see if they met the requirements. When I finally met someone who I couldn't come up with a logical reason to break up with (even though part of me was ready to try the next thing), I stayed with him, and have zero regrets about my decision...for someone who is so emotionally detached from things, going about it logically worked well. Granted, there was still that initial attraction, and we have certainly connected on a deeper level over time, but the reasons we're still together were because I took the time to look at my list(s) and realized he fit everything I wanted/needed in someone.

Oh so INTJ with INTJ here. Wasn't emotional but happy? I think it's a lovable relationship one.

I was married to an INTJ for years, I can't say it was a happy relationship.

Why wasn't a happy relationship? What's the problem that made you unhappy?

The most obvious flaw with this poll, is that it is supposed to be for INTJs and yet there is no option for 'single'.

Because I want to know INTJ partner's MBTI type, and if you're single practically you currently have no partner. But you can answer those questions I asked, like what MBTI type do you most likely to date?

I totally agree. I don't necessarily believe the ENFP/INTJ partnership is always ideal. It really depends on the ENFP/INTJ in question. My relationship with an INTJ is like clock work, it's wonderful. It doesn't go without boundaries and compromises. It can be exhausting and taxing for both of us at times, although never enough that would lead to failure. We understand and respect what we both need in order to move forward, and besides, he's kisses are simply the best of the best :p

Yes, I do think so, the compatibility of partnership can't always be decided through MBTI types. So yours is like an ideal INTJ/ENFP relationship? What makes you interested to your INTJ?