INTJs and dating sites

**entpreter** · 05-06-2011 06:59 PM

Would you join a dating site? If you have, what did you think about the concept? Any good or bad experiences?

**MissJordan** · 05-06-2011 07:47 PM

Advertising myself to a bunch of people.
Trusting people on the internet to not be creepy.
Posing for a appealing profile picture.
Meeting someone with the intent of dating them.

It's not for me...

**L'Empereur** · 05-06-2011 08:01 PM

Originally Posted by entpreter

Would you join a dating site?

If it was free, maybe.

**usernumber9** · 05-06-2011 08:10 PM

I wouldn't. I prefer to get to know a person slowly. I think the entire experience would be traumatic for me.

Dating sites are (hopefully) singles looking to meet someone. I can't imagine that such sites would encourage any real form of honest communication. To achieve their "goal" people are likely to say the words they think their potential date would like to hear. They're also likely to post pictures that are either creatively shot or manipulated, or a few years old if they're feeling insecure about themselves. If I'm going to go on a date, I'd rather it be with an honest person and not some idealized version of who they think I want them to be.

**entpreter** · 05-06-2011 08:13 PM

Originally Posted by usernumber9

I wouldn't. I prefer to get to know a person slowly. I think the entire experience would be traumatic for me.

Dating sites are (hopefully) singles looking to meet someone. I can't imagine that such sites would encourage any real form of honest communication. To achieve their "goal" people are likely to say the words they think their potential date would like to hear. They're also likely to post pictures that are either creatively shot or manipulated, or a few years old if they're feeling insecure about themselves. If I'm going to go on a date, I'd rather it be with an honest person and not some idealized version of who they think I want them to be.

I'm going to debunk your paragraph here, I'm sure there are plenty of fake people on dating sites, but I know for sure that there are people who are honestly being themselves and want others to like them for, SURPRISE!, themselves.

**antiant** · 05-06-2011 08:19 PM

Dating sites = A sarcastic person's field day. You could create a whole stand-up comedy routine and probably produce a satire laden book as well.

**usernumber9** · 05-06-2011 08:20 PM

Originally Posted by entpreter

I'm going to debunk your paragraph here, I'm sure there are plenty of fake people on dating sites, but I know for sure that there are people who are honestly being themselves and want others to like them for, SURPRISE!, themselves.

I certain there are too. I don't mean to say that all people on dating sites are deceptive. However, I know three people (2 male, 1 female) that used the sites and they all lied in various degrees. My opinion is colored by their actions.

Even if there was a way to verify that no one was lying, I still wouldn't use a dating site. As I said earlier, I prefer to meet people more slowly.

**bethdeth** · 05-06-2011 08:26 PM

Originally Posted by entpreter

Would you join a dating site? If you have, what did you think about the concept? Any good or bad experiences?

I made a thread on my experiences using a dating site....it was an absolutely hilarious experience. Did I get lucky? Nooooooo...... but I had a lot of trollish fun.

I still have fond memories of the 58 yo married semi famous artist who posed as a 42 yo single man who unveiled his identity with such dramatic flair that I had no other option but to reveal my own identity as Batman (no-one trumps Batman, right?).

There was the techy virgin Christian who flirted wonderfully by using hardware/software metaphors....he gave me the horn until he revealed that his depression was caused by his fathers sins and his prayer cured him.

Let's not forget the "single" man who was told by his wife she was seeing another man which prompted him to join dating site. I had coffee with him and listened to how much his wife spent on hairdressing. I circled the car park afterwards waiting for him to go so he wouldn't see me get into my car.

**Sanskrit** · 05-06-2011 08:30 PM

This wasn't a dating site?
Well bummer.

**entpreter** · 05-06-2011 08:31 PM

Originally Posted by bethdeth

I made a thread on my experiences using a dating site....it was an absolutely hilarious experience. Did I get lucky? Nooooooo...... but I had a lot of trollish fun.

I still have fond memories of the 58 yo married semi famous artist who posed as a 42 yo single man who unveiled his identity with such dramatic flair that I had no other option but to reveal my own identity as Batman (no-one trumps Batman, right?).

There was the techy virgin Christian who flirted wonderfully by using hardware/software metaphors....he gave me the horn until he revealed that his depression was caused by his fathers sins and his prayer cured him.

Let's not forget the "single" man who was told by his wife she was seeing another man which prompted him to join dating site. I had coffee with him and listened to how much his wife spent on hairdressing. I circled the car park afterwards waiting for him to go so he wouldn't see me get into my car.

................what fabulous site is this???!!! I HAVE to check it out!