[beqiblaqheart]

ENFJ here, married to an INTJ. I can't help for everyone, but I can possibly help with why I am with my INTJ husband.

He's super cute. Being super cute helps attracting cute women. Women like to look like everyone else. But it's more than that.

He was always easy to talk to, easy to be around, but never gave off that 'desperate' vibe that's so unattractive. He didn't flirt, which was nice, actually, because being hit on is kind of lame after a while. A guy who throw out corny stupid lines isn't able to see you as a whole person, and guys like that are eventually boring. He also had very high standards for women--couldn't stand stupid girls, couldn't stand partiers, didn't like women who were too slutty or materialistic. He gave off a vibe of being very comfortable in himself, and not needy. It took me about six months, but I eventually found him irresistable and asked him out.

So you may have to wait for a girl who's a self-starter. Not all girls want to be hit on, and some of the best ones are so used to it that it's a drag--they'd rather someone just talk to them like they have a brain in their head. So you're probably more on the right track than you think.

Of course, it also helps if you have good hygeine, interesting hair, and clothes that fit. Those things never hurt anyone.

[Shayde]

Just be yourself. Whenever I'm on the INTJ forum and a person posts a thread asking what attracts INTJs, the advice I always see is "be yourself." Either they'll like you or they won't.
If you're pursuing a long-term relationship, the only advice I can really give is:
take initiative and have good communication.

My experience with an INTJ in a romantic relationship didn't go extremely well. I always had to initiate things, his communication left much to be desired, and he didn't seem very decisive (not saying that you'd all be like that--most of you seem quite fabulous). Basically, if he'd taken the lead and been more confident, I think things would have gone better.

What I'm saying probably applies more to those looking for a serious relationship, as the things I'm suggesting are more qualities for personal development than techniques for picking up women. If you're just looking to pick up women, then by all means use a more formulaic approach :P Getting out of your comfort zone might prove effective. The worst she can do is reject you... and then you don't ever have to deal with her again anyway.
And like beqiblaqheart said... hygeine and appearance do count. You don't have to look like a supermodel, but do look like you care for yourself.

[Luciano]

I've always had success with women, and sometimes it sucks sometimes it doesn't. I have a good looking biotype for the country in which I live in, so that's a good start... what makes the difference I think is that I'm usually labeled as a "cute" guy, and deep, mature (the last 2 related to INTJ) in some other ways. I'm not a tough guy or a popular guy but I think that those characteristics are what females find interesting in me.. What sucks is that sometimes I can act like a jerk and get a female interested anyways, that's kind of annoying