So, INTJs and emotions again...and this time anger in particular.
Is anger an emotion you feel more strongly that others? Do you ever let it cloud your judgement or does it work like other emotions, sort of in the background of logic? (I am assuming that's how emotions tend to work for INTJs, correct me if I am wrong)
Do you think that anger is a legitimate emotion to indulge in, because..I don't know, you can't cope with the frustration of other people's behaviour or do you try to be neutral or fair in these cases too?
How do you deal with anger? is is a private emotion? Do you think itīs ok to express your anger when you feel it, even if that means really hurting people around you?
I am wondering what the INTJs thoughts about anger in general are, not necessarily an answer to every question. I am interested to see if there are general INTJ patterns or if the way we deal with negative emotions depends on the person and the upbringing rather than our type.
What makes you angry? People's stupidity I think is the answer!. Does the fact that you canīt control peoples emotions and behaviour make you particularly angry?
I wonder if it's true that INFPs get upset and INTJs get angry. When something bothers me, even though I do have a temper, I am more likely to be sad about it rather than angry, feel like a victim, and let it stew inside. The negative thoughts come out sooner or later though, and it's not a particularly healthy approach either.
As an INTJ, how would you like people to react to your angry outbursts? duck? listen to what you are saying and change even though you know the way you say things pushes them away? (I am not talking about infp oversensitiveness, I am talking about insults and really unpleasant words), do you expect them to stand up to you? forget the next day and carry on?
I know a very angry tantrum prone INTJ (lol dont be mad if you read this! hahah!) and I just need a bit of insight before I do INFP typical thing of not saying anything until they just one day they run a mile..
How would you explain to an INTJ that there are boundaries and calling someone an asshole is NEVER justified..in fact the second that word is used, I do not CARE anymore what the context was..you've just lost the argument as far as I am concerned and any interest I had in finding out what was that made you angry in the first place is gone and replaced by hurt? Hurt INFPs aren't nice INFPs...