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This is a discussion on Anger within the INTJ Forum - The Scientists forums, part of the NT's Temperament Forum- The Intellects category; As I've mentioned before I do not really get angry. I might get irritated and such but for more then ...

  1. #11
    INTJ - The Scientists

    As I've mentioned before I do not really get angry. I might get irritated and such but for more then 10 years now I have been unable to get angry. I do not express much feelings at all in fact even those that I do feel. But anger I can not even properly feel for some reason.
    Perhaps my amount of self discipline and accumulation of information has somehow reallocated some neural processes that are involved in anger for information processing. When I sometimes feel like I might be getting angry at something then instead I have this little "zap" in my head and it all defaults to 0. It causes a feeling of slight discomfort like someone poking you in the eye would do.

    And funnily enough my father is a short tempered man always raging at things, object and random people. My mom is a sort of temperamental woman and keeps telling me that I need to get angry sometimes too to get people to realize the severity of the situation. I do not though, I literally seem to lack the ability.
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  2. #12
    INTJ - The Scientists

    Irritation for me is one of the big causes of anger; however, my anger dissipates quickly once I am left alone. I try to conceal whenever I feel angry but I don't know if I do it right. Some people have told me I look murderous sometimes.

  3. #13
    INFJ - The Protectors

    Anger is an annoying pain in the arse emotion that I generally loathe 99% of the time. Course I'm an Enneagram type 1 and so anger tends to be an emotion I repress most of the time. It can cloud my judgment or lead me into depressive funks.

    I'm still trying to find appropriate outlets for my anger. Exercise and venting tend to be my most commonly used though these aren't always good to use.

    Lots of different things can make me angry. Someone doing dumb things that make me change my schedule would be one example. If I make a mistake and realize what an idiot I am, that can also make me angry.

    I can get upset, anxious, angry or depressed if something doesn't go my way. It all depends on where I am, what am I doing and what seems like it would be accepted in that situation.

    I'd likely tell the INTJ that this is a rule I have about the use of the term asshole. If it can be explained in a straightforward and simple manner then if the rule gets broken there are consequences and please be consistent in having those consequences.

  4. #14
    INTJ - The Scientists

    Here's how to take the wind out of the sails of an angry INTJ:

    "When you [describe insults, name calling, etc.] it makes me feel X."

    The INTJ will be ready and waiting for a counter argument or counter insults. But that statement simply can't be argued with unless the INTJ claims to know how you feel, which they will be loathe to do. It also puts it into the emotional realm, where the INTJ will be less confident. Angry INTJs can overlook how obnoxious they can be, and if you can get that across without being accusatory they might step back and see it. We prize logic after all, and seeing yourself in the mirror as an emotional jerk is embarrassing. At least, my INFP does this to me and it works like a charm.
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  5. #15
    INTJ - The Scientists

    Actually, @Thorgar, I think a rather effective counter would be "When you feel X, it makes me think you're a/an [insert insults here]."

    Shabam.
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  6. #16
    INTJ - The Scientists

    Yeah, well, if the INTJ is an actual asshole as opposed to just getting too worked up, there's nothing you can do.

  7. #17
    INTJ - The Scientists

    I don't know about you guys, but sometimes, anger feels like heartburn.

  8. #18
    INTJ - The Scientists

    I either get extremely nervous in an instant because something really unexpected came up that I didn't plan for at all, or anger because somebody thinks I'm angry... or by God depressed. Just because I'm not bursting with positive emotion, does not mean that I am mad or sad. How retarded is it that people come up to me and ask, "what's wrong?" Ahhhh the repetition! I am fine until I am asked that question. That and bad table manners(smacking your lips) makes me freak out on the inside.

    Sometimes I don't know how I can contain all that anger, of course I've had a couple explosions that were very unpleasant. No drugs or alcohol either; my anger is for real.

    I mean it's like just shut up! I always say this when I am told, "you are such an asshole!": "hey, I mind my own business don't I?"

    I am the one that gets pestered.
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  9. #19
    INTJ - The Scientists

    OH I'm the second one here who does not get angry it seems

    I rarely get angry, I don't think it's useful in anyway. I train mixed martial arts, still when in combat I do not get angry ever, I get a little bit angry with myself at times, but I don't know if angry it's the right word, it just bothers me to fail at anything when I know how to do it right.

    So no, angry it's just a tiny room in me

  10. #20
    INTJ - The Scientists

    Irritated? Regularly. Really truly angry? Hardly ever. 99.9% of the time I can dissipate the annoying situation one way or another before I truly become angry. If I get pushed to that point, then I just become ugly - my real anger is rather scary, especially for most people who know me because I can count on one hand (with fingers to spare) the number of people who have ever seen me lose my temper. Up until that moment, I'm pretty calm, and very hard to get worked up. Someone really has to try to make me angry, and I must be lacking the ability to leave the situation. It also needs to be an absolutely ridiculous thing that they are pushing with no logical reason whatsoever for their behavior.

    For the most part anger is right there with my other emotions - rather quiet and pretty much sitting in the background.
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