[BeanDelphiki]

I met an INTJ female. She seemed to show that she was attracted to me, but at those times I gave no signals in return. She has since stopped.



I am attracted to her (and kicking myself for my earlier behavior). We also live on the same dorm floor.

I have no dating experience, since I've never before met someone with whom I could see a long-term relationship.

Now what do I do?

[WildWinds]

Find which dorm is hers, go knock on the door and say "Hey, want to *insert light activity you want to do like get some coffee, grab lunch, go for a walk etc*?".

[femalegamer]

I think I can agree with that - with one exception (which ended quickly and fairly badly), every guy I've ever dated has been a friend first. I can also say that I made the first move in each case, but I was definitely nervous about it and would have been perfectly content for him to move first. Anyway, yes, common activities and a lack of beating around the bush.

[calliope]

As has been stated many times around here, if she is INTJ she will probably not be the type that enjoys the endless does he or doesn't he anticipation and waiting and wondering that nons seem to love. Ten minutes was always about the max that I could take of the wondering phase. Rip the bandaid off now, end the pain. Indecision in others is not a favorite INTJ quality. If it's not a good time in your life for facing possible rejection befriending her friends is good, basically spying. Manipulate something, join a group thing with her, stalk her eating habits and happen to sit at her table, find out her academic interests and start talking about them. Don't worry about being smooth, just show her your mind immediately.