First a little background to hopefully clarify things some (Sorry, this will be a little lengthy):
I work for a fairly large mental health facility in upstate NY that has many group homes (14 clients live in one large house run by mental health staff), SROs (80 - 100 clients live in their single occupancy room again run by many mental health staff), and TAPs (mental health treatment apartments). I call the company I work for DePaul-Mart because we are essentially the Walmart of mental health facilities in the city where I live. We have a contract with a huge (billion dollar industry) pharmacy that delivers our client's medications to our various residential sites. I believe DePaul is seen as something of a "medium size fish" to this pharmacy that delivers to a multitude of various facilities. I happen to be the person at my residential facility that acts as both a mental health counselor and the person responsible for ordering all our clients medications (so I have a lot of interaction with this pharmacy on almost a daily basis).
Within the last two years I have had several encounters with the manager of the pharmacy (the very top man) at this billion dollar company. And for the love of god.. wouldn't you know it.. this is the man that very much intrigues me. Why this man could not be one of the pharmacy techs is beyond me.. but he's not, and that is more than part of the problem.
As an INFP I personally don't really care one way or the other what his position is, how much he makes, what kind of car he has, or anything else that he might have that is of monetary value. I'm intrigued by him regardless of his "status" in life. I don't get many opportunities to interact with him, but always try to find ways that I can without seeming like I'm stalking him. :)
I know many of the lower level pharmacy people because we interact so often, but I can't really pump them for information about their boss because:
1. That would be unprofessional of me.
2. He's their boss.
3. When I do bring up his name I can tell he intimidates the heck out of them because they saying things like "oh, we don't want to bother him with this." Mentally I'm think "Well yes I DO what to bother him because I want to get to know him better!!" But of course I don't.
On the occasions when I have interacted with him he is always just so darn nice and a little over-accommodating to me. He sort of stumbles all over himself to give me things like pharmacy pens, promotional items, etc. when we interact which I find extremely cute and endearing on his part. From my interaction with him I find him simply adorable.. in a way that only INTJs can be.. I genuinely believe he does an extremely good job with the things he does as the general manager of this facility. He has employed an incredible staff (that is an excellent reflection upon him as the manager), and when I have the opportunity to let him know how much I appreciate something he or his staff has done.. he seems to love it. It appears to matter at great deal to him that I'm pleased with whatever I'm thanking him for. He'll usually have me repeat at least once whatever I'm making a point to thank him for by saying somewhere in the conversation "so you liked X" as if he didn't get me right the first time.. and as a possible INTJ you know he did.. :)
Most recently in an effort to "get to know him better" I have engaged his help in a MBTI project that I'm doing. I'm almost certain he's an INTJ, but with as little interaction as we've had over the last few years I can't be 100% sure without testing conformation. So I called him the other day to genuinely thank him for something, and ended the conversation by asking if he would be willing to take the test to see if he is what I believe he is (INTJ) for the project I'm doing. Basically I'm trying to correctly identify and interview (prior to testing) someone from each of the 16 MBTIs. It's like a MBTI scavenger hunt. He appeared more than willing to do this so I faxed him a basic MBTI test. I asked him to not do the test while he was at work so that the results would hopefully be more accurate. He's going to do the test while he's off next week and let me know when he's finished with the test.
This is where I need an INTJ's perspective if you're willing to give it:
1. Am I possibly misinterpreting this INTJs "good business behavior" as personal friendliness? (if he's INTJ is it possibly he acts the same with all business clients?)
2. As an INTJ would you behave as he has with me (overly friendly), willing to take a lengthy MBTI test, extremely accommodating.. if you viewed our relationship as merely "business"?
3. I would honestly like to get to know this man better. How on earth do I do this without it possibly seeming like I'm interested in him due to his "status"? Because of the position he has, it's darn hard to get opportunities to interact with him as much as I would like.. :(
4. He appears to be fairly nervous and shy when interacting with me.. even if he wanted to "make a move" I don't see him doing it. I'm not sure if our professional interaction automatically negates this option in his mind. It doesn't in my mind, but it might in his... I'm unsure how an INTJ would see this aspect of the relationship. Is anything more than a business relationship more than likely not an option in his mind?
5. I very much want to invite him out for coffee once he provides me his test so we can discuss his results.. Would this wound an INTJ males ego?
If you're still with me, thanks for enduring the length of the post. Any insight you might be willing to offer into the mind of the illusive male INTJ mind would be greatly appreciated. And yes, I realize if he ends up testing as ISTJ this is a whole different ball of wax... but I pretty firmly believe he is INTJ. :)