[INTJ] Nosy People (those that can't mind their own business)

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Nosy People (those that can't mind their own business)

    Why are nosy people always in other people's business? This is just my personal observation, but it seems like the more I want to be left alone, the more nosy people want to see what I'm up to - even if its nothing at all.

    I'll totally admit that they irritate me, but I can't really say why. How do you deal with those people that inject themselves into your life (uninvited), and what's your opinion as to why they do it?



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    INTJ - The Scientists


    I usually give them a warning. After that I show obvious contempt. It's not the most eloquent solution but it tends to work. If it doesn't, I do what I can to limit my interaction with them.

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    I go into this staunch ignore mode, where I don't even speak. The majority of people can usually tell by my behavior that I don't want to speak, but then again that's kind of always my behavior, it works really well and I love the fact that I can emit that to people. Once in awhile, when I get a retard who can't read body language very well and wants to constantly try to talk to me, I'll start looking for spaces/exits in which I can evade and avoid and that also works for me quite well. You definitely need ninja skills for situations like these, it requires stealth, strategy, knowing your exits at all times, disappearing and then a covert phrase like "Hey, I'm going to the bathroom," or no phrase at all. I have mastered these particular ninja skills very well, so I hardly experience this situation anymore.

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    These are, I assume, social types who want to engage. I just answer the question directly. For some reason the mundane activities that I do on my own time are incomprehensible to the average social person. So a truthful answer shuts them up and they have no idea what to say next. Problem solved. This one works best. "So, what are you up to this weekend?" Answer: "Birdwatching." They have no idea what to do with this, so conversation over.

    It works fine for almost any answer to a question. If I don't put my responses into social format through word choice, intonation and body language, that alone stops even the most invasive questioner. I make people uncomfortable unless I work to not. So this is never a problem for me.
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    Unknown Personality

    By "people," do you mean friends, family friends, family, coworkers, etc? Or... strangers?!

    Because I relate to this - wanting to be left the hell alone sometimes. But if it's close friends or family, or even coworkers, I think sometimes they need something to signify that the recluse period has begun. And I think it's fair to give some kind of heads up or indicator (subtle or blunt), that I need some space. I have to remind myself of this all the time, but people don't read minds so sometimes they need things spelled out for them.

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    INTJ - The Scientists

    I'm considered somewhat nosy. Usually because I want to understand these humans for my report back to Ors--- because I like people... [?]
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Quote Originally Posted by cosmos View Post
    Why are nosy people always in other people's business? This is just my personal observation, but it seems like the more I want to be left alone, the more nosy people want to see what I'm up to - even if its nothing at all.

    I'll totally admit that they irritate me, but I can't really say why. How do you deal with those people that inject themselves into your life (uninvited), and what's your opinion as to why they do it?
    The more I want to be left alone, the more people seem to be interested in what I'm doing. I suppose it's typical of the social animal, usually when people stay to themselves they have something good in their hands that they don't want to share.

    It's a little ridiculous though. There are a couple of women who think I'm this mysterious guy who they all want to get to know. It's not a problem if they only talk to me once in a while, but when I eat or sit in front of a computer at school I want to be left alone. I'm not trying to be this mystical and dreamy lone ranger with a deep secret, some people just interpret me that way because I'm fairly good at socializing but choose not to.

    Oh well. Just remember that this is a luxury problem. Most types would love to have others deeply interested in them. It's usually quite harmless and you can just hide a place where you know they won't look. It only begins to become problematic when you get stalked.... I had a girl with borderline follow me for a couple of weeks once....

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    Unknown Personality

    I normally am very chatty about trivial things in my life. This means that all the stuff that truly matters is completely under the radar. It works great, you can pretend to be social, while in fact, they know nothing about you at all - in fact, they might get the wrong impression.
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    INTJ - The Scientists

    Quote Originally Posted by curious0610 View Post
    By "people," do you mean friends, family friends, family, coworkers, etc? Or... strangers?!
    That's a good question. I was thinking mainly about strangers or competitive co-workers; those people who dig deeply into my business with absolutely no goal in mind but to satisfy their curiosity.

    The only thing I really have to hide is that my thinking and my ideas are far reaching and all-encompassing, and I don't like to expose them until they are fully formed; otherwise, feelings could get hurt or, more often, my intentions will be misunderstood. So I guess it's the process and materials I use to get to my conclusions that I'm protective of, because I just feel like they are private.

    Maybe I'm being old-fashioned, but it just seems incredibly rude to me when someone I'm barely familiar with (or not familiar at all) wants to know about this very personal side of me, and when I resist, it's like waving a red flag at a bull - they just can't leave it alone. I guess that's the trait that irritates me. With family or close friends, there's at least that familiarity and consideration, a mutual respect, or understanding, so that I'm not irritated.

    Is this just how a different personality type naturally acts, and I'm overreacting?

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    ENFJ - The Givers

    Quote Originally Posted by HannibalLecter View Post
    I'm considered somewhat nosy. Usually because I want to understand these humans for my report back to Ors--- because I like people... [?]

    You what? I'm sorry I think there's a typo there... it says you like people.


 
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