The (stream of conscious?) venting thread for INTJ.

**MissJordan** · 09-25-2011 07:01 AM

Originally Posted by Einsteinette

if you take some each type psychological characters in consideration, lots of MBTI type are more likely to know INTJs than INTJs them selves .

True.

I seem to draw NFPs quite considerably.
I'd never really feel compelled to an INTJ like I would to an NFP -- for the sake that an INTJ is understandable and relatable, NFPs are eccentric and different.

I might be class-mates with an INTJ, but that's about it.

**Einsteinette** · 09-25-2011 07:07 AM

Originally Posted by MissJordan

True.

I seem to draw NFPs quite considerably.
I'd never really feel compelled to an INTJ like I would to an NFP -- for the sake that an INTJ is understandable and relatable, NFPs are eccentric and different.

I might be class-mates with an INTJ, but that's about it.

That and the fact that two people meeting together requires that at least one of them do an effort to make the acquaintance of the other person. In the case of two INTJs the process is riskier than normal since it's very likely that neither one of them will make the effort.

**antiant** · 09-25-2011 11:39 AM

Originally Posted by Action Potential

I always kind of figured a post prefaced with "I KNOW 872897389732 INTJs" is basically code for "ONE PISSED ME OFF ON THE INTERNET AND I'M STILL MAD" since it's usually followed by something disparaging.

I've met a grand total of one offline and three online (outside of this forum, I mean), and I always hang out in the places where you'd expect to run into them. What am I doing wrong?

LOL, it's even funnier when you question them. Are you sure they are an INTJ, how do you know this? Then they go on with, "Well, my INTJ is not like ANY of you INTJs online, that's for sure, you all are a bunch of retards!" Blah blah blah. INTJs generally are NOT people relating, so when I see, "Yeah, I've met 2532532 INTJs" I smell and think "bullshit" and see the predictable rage of stereotypes coming. Then I feel sorry for the "INTJ" that happens to be coupled with this person as their behavior and rage is not something "real" INTJs would actually tolerate, unless they have low self-esteem or a multitude of issues, etc.

**MissJordan** · 09-25-2011 12:38 PM

Originally Posted by antiant

"Well, my INTJ is not like ANY of you INTJs online."

This sentence alone irks me greatly.

**antiant** · 09-25-2011 12:46 PM

Originally Posted by MissJordan

This sentence alone irks me greatly.

Indeed, but I have seen it in so many threads in the INTJ forum, that I have lost count.

**OwLY** · 09-25-2011 12:54 PM

It seems that the people who claim to be surrounded by Ni-doms (who, as we all know, are rare) just want to be one of those rare types themselves. They can't change themselves, so they change their surroundings by projecting the stereotype of an INTJ on their friends who may or may not even be an INTJ, thus making themselves special again.

Everyone just wants to be unique I guess, and some go to stranger lengths than others.

**luemb** · 09-25-2011 01:16 PM

I've spent the past month on a quest to figure myself out. I'm not sure if I'm making headway. The problem being, I can relate to all of the functions, to some degree.

The archetype theory suddenly started clearing things up. People use all 8 functions, but they are all linked to different sides of our personalities. Our Hero, or ego, function is our dominant. Or auxiliary function relates to our parenting or teaching side. Our tertiary function feels childish. Our inferior function is our perceived weakness of ourselves, or the function we have an "inferiority complex" about. Then, all of the shadow functions come out in negative situations or when we feel like we are in danger and our main functions are not adequate for the situation.

The other thing that was fascinating to note was that the Hero, or primary, function is the one that I'm supposed to feel the strongest emotional connection with. It's the one that's me, the one that I am happy using, and the one that I am excited about using.

For some reason, I've been suppressing my hero function. I feel guilty about being happy about using it. I think that's because it's not one that a lot of people relate to, so I'm scared to use it. I've slowly been discovering who I really am.

Most people seem to be quite "stuck" in their main function; it's always been them and, while they might be aware that they are different, they don't try to be anyone else. I've been trying to "get out" of my main function. I don't make sense to most other women and my actions around guys would be seen as flirting. I like jumping into the middle of other people's conversations and saying ridiculous things and laughing at myself.

Ok, this is going to sound ridiculous, but, if my present interpretation of what happened is right, then I will be so relieved. When I was younger I had a crush on one of my friends, and was really shy around him. One of my friends also had a crush on him, and knew that I did too. We were all at this weekend event together. So, when I saw that I was assigned to help serve tables with her, it instantly hit me that she would ask/challenge me to serve the table that he sat at. And, having had a few mostly-come-true experiences like this before, I assumed that what I imagined would happen, would happen. It happened pretty close to the way I imagined it. However, looking back, I can see that I knew enough to be able to predict that this would happen. It was just strange, and scary, how sure I was that it would happen. I didn't want to say that I could read minds, because I don't believe that that is possible, but I didn't know how else to explain it. Now I know that it was possible for my mind to have simply put the two ideas together. Could it have been Ni that gave me the instant prediction and the surety of it?