[fievre]

Okay, I'll try to make this brief. This INTJ guy and I have been talking increasingly and things seem to be heading in a possibly relationship-ward direction. Because of circumstances surrounding the situation, this is something people have been noticing, and the few who have spoken to me about it really seem to think he does like me. It's also becoming impossible to deny it myself.



At any rate, nothing has been spelled out yet, but the semester is coming to an end and I'm trying to figure out how I should tell him goodbye for the summer. If things go normally we'll be out to eat with friends Tuesday night which will be the last time I see him before the fall semester. Afterwards he'll drop me off at my dorm. I'm pretty sure I can handle what to say, but what to do is another thing entirely. I don't want to come off too strong, but I want there to be a certain significance. I've considered a hug, or just a pat on the shoulder or even a peck on the cheek. What do you all think? Or should I do nothing?


Also, one more thing. His birthday will be over the summer and I've read how most of you feel about getting gifts. However, during a recent conversation with him I mentioned coming across a wine glass that was designed to hold an entire bottle of wine. He really seemed to get a kick out of it. Would that be an acceptable gift to send him? It's not too sentimental, but not too thoughtless either.


Thanks in advance.

[PseudoSenator]

Not sentimental, not thoughtless? Perfect gift.

Your situation is tough. Coming from me, you should put great stock in what you say because words, if genuine, convey more meaning than hugs in my opinion. That will help tear down any remaining emotional barrier we INTJs put up, if he really likes you. After that, leave it to him to make a move. If nothing happens, why not go for a slightly lingering hug.

Hope I helped, I'm not famous for my relationship expertise.

Good luck!

[Thorgar]

Yes, get him the wine glass. INTJs love sentimentality in concrete form like that. Actions > words.

[wealldie]

I was thinking sex?

[fievre]

i was thinking sex?

brilliant!

[fievre]

BUMP

I'd like some more opinions please!

[HannibalLecter]

Say "goodbye".

[Jerick]

What were you planning on saying?

I'd probably just state my intentions. Be realistic, something like, "we should keep in touch." Then hand him your cellphone and tell him to put his number into it (if you don't already have it). Then you can send text messages once or twice a week.