This is basically right on the money. The only reason why I was not older than I was when I lost my virginity is because I was with someone who was confident enough to initiate sex. If I'd had to wait until I initiated it, I might still be. I'm that awkward.Originally Posted by MarioAndLuigi:4213216
I really relate to what you said about being completely clueless about seduction. When I first had sex with my current, then-virginal, partner, I was still painfully awkward about it all, even though I was more experienced than him and was very titillated by the dynamic. It took me months to learn how to be "sexy" and initiate sex. Even when I decided to seduce him more overtly (with lingerie, candles, the whole nine yards) two years into our relationship, I still dissolved into this shy, painfully awkward mess that I'm still trying to recover from.
As for the bolded bit at the end, that's exactly why both myself and my partner (also INxJ) both have very little romantic/sexual experience. I have more than him for the reason I described above, but I was still a much later bloomer than nearly all of my friends and have far less dating experience than the average girl my age.