So I have a question for INTJs. I'm trying to understand my best friend and why he seems to be repeatedly bashing his head against the wall over this girl...
They've been together for a couple of years now and the relationship is basically failing now. I have no idea what her type is. I've yet to even meet her. All I know is that she's supposedly a very independent person, but is not in the position currently to be independent. And this is causing stress on their relationship, because he feels like he's doing everything, and she feels like a worthless leech (her words, not mine!). So they are bickering constantly.
She asked him to give her some time to herself. So he did... but she keeps coming at him taking little jabs at him over dumb stuff... So now he feels like he tried to give her what she wanted and she didn't take it. And he's tired of putting up with her... And then the next day he's beating himself up for not giving her space and not listening to her.
Is it possible that when in a relationship with someone they really care about an INTJ will do whatever they can to keep it going? I mean, at this point it's pretty clear that it's not going to work. As it stands now, he's changing himself to what she wants. If you need more information just ask... I'll try and provide as much information as I can. Like I said, it's completely one sided... So I can't give her side.