Hi! I'm an INTJ - a healthy one - i hope! and Enneagram: 5w6 L7,8
As you already know, I'm aloof!
though, I'm a good conversational person with all types of people(Business, Relationships),
till the point they want me to share!
there is an ENFP girl that I feel connected to here in everything, and she feels the same too, even more!
surprisingly enough, we have a deep problem in communication...
I love here, but I can't talk to here more than 3 sentences, and we are both out!
She even came to me many times to talk, again the conversation was very awkward!
I tried to figure this thing out, but I couldn't!
the thing is that she expects too much from me, she expects that I 'open up' and share as soon as I talk
to here, well I don't open up, even to my mother in everything!
I feel like she wants from me to come to her, and tell her 'I love you' from the first sentence..
I try to convey to her that she doesn't need my love for her to be okay, then, I sense her depression.
then, I cheer her up!
Her crush on me makes me want to flee! and, I don't want to be rude to her by running!
sometimes, I do run when it gets too hot!
the funny thing that this is driving me crazy, and usually I'm not!
Please, if you have any kind of advice tell me!
especially if you have been in the situation of (INTJ male / ENFP female) interaction..
thank you very much! and, you made two humans on this planet less miserable!