Oh you little INTJs! I love you! xD
What I would assume from an INTJ would be stone cold stares, the cold shoulder when attempting to discuss "feelings," and that sort of thing. Notice I used the word cold twice. But, that is not what I see from my dear INTJ friend.
While she is markedly shyer than I (INFP!) am, I have had some of the most wonderful conversations with her regarding the feely type stuff. I have even got her to open up to me about deep past secrets/ issues. Basically, we get along swell. We can talk and talk, and it's great fun. This is usually over texting though, mind you. When we're physically together, I do the most talking and feel a bit awkward, but we still can have long, great conversations then as well. One thing I've noticed is that we usually only interact in that way when we're mostly alone. But that is certainly fine by me! :) Also, she is not the type to initiate physical contact, so I need to be a bit more bold some of the time. Nevertheless, I love who she is ever so much. She is kind, intelligent, creative as hell, and just all around intriguing! And the funny thing is, she actually wants to talk to me all the time! I would expect (stereotype) for her to not be super interested in talking to me all the time, but every day she sends me a little "I miss you" or something along those lines.
And of course, the INFP in me just loves those little "I miss you's."
So what I really want to emphasize is... she's swell.
You INTJs are swell people.
I embrace you for who you are.
PS- Of course I know that not all INTJs are the same. This lovely girl-friend of mine may be just a smidgen more towards the F than some of you. Nonetheless, you're great.
I will now proceed to put on my armor and hide from your attacks on my "generalizations" and "assumptions."