Hi, folks. I'm ten years happily married to an INTJ. He's always had a difficult relationship with his (suspected ESTJ) mom; a few weeks back she hurt his feelings pretty deeply. I'm accustomed to giving him space to process when it's a problem between the two of us, but, you know, he likes me a lot - he typically only needs 24 hours, tops. It's been weeks, here, and his hapless/insensitive mom is very apologetic (for her). I'm giving him space space space, but my spidey senses feel like he may have hit a snag - there's a lot of baggage, I think, which no doubt is uglier for sitting under his surface for so long. Every time I've tried to help (in the most careful of ways) I've gotten bit - I'm out of ideas. Any tips? What helps you process pain/move forward towards reconciliation?