Okay, I'm really sorry if this is the wrong place to ask a question like this, but I'll go ahead and do so anyway.
I know this INTJ, and we've been talking every single day for awhile now. We're pretty close, and know a lot about each other. He's told me before that he rarely finds people who understand him, and yay, I happen to be one of them. Okaaay so fast forward, he confessed. He told me he liked me. I was pretty confused about my own feelings, so I told him to wait awhile for an answer.
We got into a huge argument not long after, and it slowly accelerated into me raging at him about what I disliked about him. (He can be pretty jerky sometimes.) AAAND so, we didnt talk for two entire weeks. He ignored a few of my messages too.
We're back to being friends again, because I called him to talk about how sorry I was, how much I regretted the things I said. He told me that ignoring me was just a defense mechanism, because he was deeply hurt by the things I said. However, he also said that it made him realise how much he really liked me, because if not he wouldn't care at all, as usual.
He gave me a deadline (-_-) to tell him whether or not I'd like to be his Girlfriend.. but the thing is, he's being soooo cold and so different from how I used to know him.. just your typical closed-off INTJ. He's been saying stuff like "I won't chase you, if that's what you want me to do." "Even if you don't want me, another person will want me." "I'm not a very patient person, just so you know."
I don't know, it's just so... insincere, you know what I mean? Does he really like me or is he just too lonely and desperately wants to settle with any partner? Is he still hurt from the previous incident? Why is he being so cold and mean all of a sudden? Like I really feel like, I can't talk to him anymore because of how cold he's being right now. What in the world is he thinking??? It's like, he "likes" me, but still manages to be so insincere in his words and actions, which is what I really don't understand?
Thank you for reading.
-A troubled INFJ