[RoughEstimate]

The lion and the lamb, at least that held true for me.
I'd watch my INTJ level every ego on the field and then seriously come over to me and laugh about it.
He never took a shot at me, though. Never. Put everyone in their place and then came to share the spoils of victory.
It's just an awesome and mutual appreciation. He texted me yesterday, actually. I'll end up marrying him. damnit.

[clandestine]

Both my boyfriend and my older brother are INTJs. (No Freudian comments, kthx.)

My older brother and I were close in young childhood and are becoming close again. We have a 7 year age gap between us, so it wasn't until I entered my 20s that we really began reconnecting.

Sometimes he's the only one in my whole family that gets what I'm trying to say; he's able to weed out the emotional shit and translate for me sometimes. I remember being completely floored when he went against our mom on something; he didn't do it directly, but he helped me move out and gave me a big hug. He didn't say much, but he didn't have to. I remember being a little overwhelmed because my brother doesn't do something unless he really wants to.

There have also been times our own dad has said I sound exactly like him. Not sure if I want to take that as a compliment or not as my brother can be a real jackass, but... I don't know. I get weirdly satisfied by that. We DO both think very differently from our parents (suspected ISTP and ISFP who have both been jaded by the world...); he is an atheist and sometimes beyond inappropriate with his arguments against religion. Although I DO believe in God, I still understand why my brother feels the way he does, and I typically defend his right to feel that way. And often, he does the same for me.

Our relationship still has a lot of work, but that's for reasons outside of MBTI. I really enjoy who he is as a person, love his wit, and know that secretly he turns into a fluff ball with his Chosen Few. He called me "Sweetie" on the phone the other day, and my Fi maniacally rubbed its hands with glee.

My boyfriend and I have a very similar relationship, except, yaknow, with lots of kissing.

I REALLY LIKE THIS DYNAMIC, OKAY?

[Enigma2You]

Are you sure you have your type right? Your profile says INTP.

Yeah, it's what my test said but I must be on that cusp of the two because I honestly can't peg which one I am. But this thread is totally relevant to me, so I chimed in.

[Bakuwoman]

I cracked up when I saw this thread because one of my best friends is an INFP (in fact he might read this post if he isn't too lazy =p). He listens to my rants/opinions even if they are about topics I have brought up multiple times. He also will tell me up front if something I say is considered insensitive... even if it is true. We have stayed up for hours rambling about a lot of different topics. Are INFPs and INTJs supposed to be enemies? o.O

[Olivia]

INTJs cut through emo like knives, which can come in handy at times.

[JC77]

I think there's a really interesting dynamic between INTJ and INFP. I've said a number of times that the INFP I've fallen for sort of brings Fi to the forefront of my mind, just by merit of her being around. It's actually amazing when you think about it - she helps me consciously use my tertiary function. I don't mean she challenges me to use it, I mean it becomes the easiest and most important thing in the world when she's around. So I act differently around her and other INFP's. Your INTJ probably has a very unusual relationship with you. That "soul mate" thing is probably true on her end as well.

My friend has actually used very similar words to describe our relationship. I asked her once if she was the way she is with me around other people and she told me that same thing about me bringing Fi to the forefront of her mind (well... not in those words exactly, and without talking about functions haha). And unusual describes our relationship extremely well... we've both come to recognize that it's not romance... but it's also more than friendship... it's like we're family. Sometimes we worry that we aren't going to find romantic partners who will get us as much as we get each other... or who won't be weirded out by our relationship. Unusual alright haha.

[Isis]

I know an INFP and an INTJ that have been best friends since they met. I don't see how it works, because the INFP is just so lovely and the INTJ is a bit of a psychopath, but it clearly does work.

@Hrothgarsdad....when did we become friends?

[Hrothgarsdad]

@Hrothgarsdad....when did we become friends?

The first day of grad school when we almost missed the orientation session because we were talking so much and didn't realize we were spatially disoriented.

[Isis]

The first day of grad school when we almost missed the orientation session because we were talking so much and didn't realize we were spatially disoriented.

OK, so the very first time we met? Better read the rest of this thread....

[Seraph114]

I cracked up when I saw this thread because one of my best friends is an INFP (in fact he might read this post if he isn't too lazy =p). He listens to my rants/opinions even if they are about topics I have brought up multiple times. He also will tell me up front if something I say is considered insensitive... even if it is true. We have stayed up for hours rambling about a lot of different topics. Are INFPs and INTJs supposed to be enemies? o.O

haHA. i found you... and i'm NOT too lazy to read this. =P however under certain circumstances i might've been xP. now to add my bit =P

so lately i've been looking up more stuff on the 8 mental functions for the mbti and i think those can help explain why the two types can develop a wicked relationship. i believe the important function that connects these two is the intuitive function. for an intj they have a dominant introverted intuitive(Ni) function while an infp would have an auxiliary extroverted intuitive(Ne) function which i believe compliment each other because of the different ways intuition is used. granted it might work out better if the extroverted intuition was dominant but this already lays out groundwork for a great relationship.

now the stuff i'm about to talk about is my interpretation and conclusions of a website i found about this stuff. to get the real stuff go to the following link: (bear with the "non" link because i can't post them quite yet. just take out the spaces xP)

personalitypathways. com / 16-personality-types2

so to sum up and conclude what i got from this site AND to reiterate myself, it would seem that extroverted and introverted intuition would compliment each other. they both deal with the abstract world handling ideas and theories that have yet to be created or discovered. this can cause a wonderful dynamic where these abstract notions just keep spewing out of them. first you can have the Ne create an idea or theory that neither have ever thought of before. Then you can have the Ni overlook this verifying its validity and/or working out the kinks that the Ne most likely overlooked. Second, you can have the Ni discover an idea or theory that can bring much better understanding between the 2. Then you can have the Ne build upon this for something new having a solid foundation of perception that the Ni presented. either way it creates a very cool and interesting dynamic (imo of course =P) that works very well that can even work in a cycle all simply starting from a notion.

now of course, the Ne function is not dominant but in fact auxiliary for the infp. so a possible place for conflict occurs between the dominant Feeling function that the infp has and the auxiliary Thinking function that the intj has. generally it is best to match up people by having the same dominant function that is different in how it is projected. however, since the intj has the thinking function as auxiliary it does not oppose the infp's feelings AS much. another thing many people earlier had commented about is that because one is a feeling type and the other a thinking type it brings out each others' less dominant functions. for the most part i believe that to be true because the intj's thinking function is extroverted and the infp's feeling function is introverted. so one is more focused on what to do while the other is focused on how its done. therefore they aren't opposed to each other while bringing out each others' tertiary and inferior functions.

so yea that's my take on this. intj's can verify if i'm rite!!!

oh and those that aren't sure of what type they are still i would suggest going to the link i posted up earlier and figuring out which functions fits you best. =P