Hey! I'd like to ask you INTJs about something that's been bothering me...
So, I'm really interested in this INTJ guy that I know a little a year ago. He and I worked in the same organization, and well, you could say that he was my supervisor. So I have been interested in him pretty much after our several meetings, and then I tried to make a move, but I must admit, it was pretty subtle. Because his cousin (who happens to be my friend) had to assure him several times that I was interested in him. Long story short, I didn't get any positive feed back from him. I mean, he was really nice and friendly, but he always kept that 'supervisor' vibe with me, like he didn't want to take our relationship more than professional. Just when I realized what was happening, I decided to give up.
But then suddenly he changed... and I realized he did ever since he acknowledged that I was single (he actually thought that I had a boyfriend). He kinda broke down every professional barrier between us and became this whole knew person that I didn't know (because as far as I'm concerned he was very rigid and inflexible with people outside their inner circle, like most INTJ's that I've read...) this was the first time he initiated physical contact: he grabbed my hand and held it but it was quite brief. At that time I didn't really look into it because I was thinking that our relationship wasn't at that stage. He never texted me. All of our texts revolves around work, never personal. Well, we did joke around a bit, but the texts weren't consistent.
And then we kinda lost contact for about a month because I was busy with this project. THEN, I found out that he was going out with this girl. They weren't really dating, but they were really close, and some friends said that she was his past interest that came back after breaking up with her boy friend... Well, ever since then, I became more sure that I should just forget about him.
But we remained friends, and I could feel that he was opening up more to me. And then I learned that he was no longer with that girl. But then I grew tired because I never really got the feedback that I hoped for. It was always me that initiated the texts, and often times he ignored my replies if he thinks it's and end to a conversation. And then I just decided that perhaps he's just not into me, so I decided to give up again. BUT, somehow we were reconnected through some events despite me trying to stop any contact with him. And now, recently he's been coming over to my house. And because I live only with my cousin, he just seems comfortable coming over. He stayed until almost midnight, and we just spent time together watching, laughing, talking. And in those two times he's come over, he has been extremely touchy with me. He loves to tickle me since he knows I'm extremely ticklish. The other night, he just casually put his hand on my neck and started stroking his thumb while watching a movie. I mean, I've read that INTJs don't really like physical contact, so it's quite confusing to me as to why he does these things. And we never text each other... barely... only if there are important things that we need to take care of. It's so confusing to me... he's really a riddle. So I'm really wondering what you guys think.
Btw, I'm an ESFP if anyone's wondering. I'm a really outspoken and bubbly person, but I used to be awkward in front of him, like I was afraid of doing silly things that would make him dislike me. But now I don't really care, like I just say what I want to him, laugh like a hyena in front of him, I don't care.