[NegaPanda]

I am not asexual but sex is not of particular interest to me. Every now and then, I'd crave a little physical interaction with another person but it's easily overcome. I think perhaps I rationalize it too much. Also, my partners did not make it easy for me to enjoy it. The "cuddling" afterwards would get a little suffocating. I, personally, don't understand how sex immediately translates into emotional intimacy. Maybe people just automatically make that association now. I would even make it explicitly clear to them that I was only interested in what they could provide me physically, and I always had their consent prior to it, but they seemed too willing to try to connect to me over a period of time. It bothered me, because then I had to explain to them again that I wasn't interested in developing a relationship (I hate repeating myself).
I have no preference for a single sex or gender. If a person appeals to me (not really emotionally; mostly intellectually), then it does not matter whether they are male or female. However, at the moment, I can honestly say sex is a mundane thing I think people make too much of a big deal out of. Yes, great, I have a sex drive but it doesn't govern my every thought and action.
I also think marriage to be a doomsday regime. I can't help but feel it's a little pointless, at least for someone like me. I have no disrespect for others who choose to marry. Live and let live, right?

Thank you very much. This is what I'm looking for. I especially agree with the part where you stated that sex is made much too big a deal out of. I completely agree. I also think marriage is a doomsday regime. Again, thank you very much.

[delarocha420]

Yes, I realize being asexual is an aberration, but do you really think I'm weird for it? Plus, it's not like I'm the only asexual person there is.

Well yes I do think you're weird. I mean, people like to have sex. Sure there are those with low sex drives, but to think that it wouldn't interest someone at all is just very strange to me. Its just human nature... Its almost like saying "I have no interest in getting a massage." Why not? It feels good!
Yea you're not the only one, but I don't think I've ever come across someone who is.

[NegaPanda]

Well yes I do think you're weird. I mean, people like to have sex. Sure there are those with low sex drives, but to think that it wouldn't interest someone at all is just very strange to me. Its just human nature... Its almost like saying "I have no interest in getting a massage." Why not? It feels good!
Yea you're not the only one, but I don't think I've ever come across someone who is.

Hm, well I'm sorry if I puzzled you. I have a tendency to do that to people. And I see what you mean, I just really don't find it to be at all worth it in the end. It's more of the inner pragmatist in me speaking for themselves. I realize it's human nature to want to do things like that, but I suppose I'm just..different. Also, I see that you're a girl, and I'd like to point out that (with most girls I know) they typically have higher sex drives. I'm not trying to be sexually stereotypical, so I'm sorry if I offended you in any way.

[delarocha420]

Hm, well I'm sorry if I puzzled you. I have a tendency to do that to people. And I see what you mean, I just really don't find it to be at all worth it in the end. It's more of the inner pragmatist in me speaking for themselves. I realize it's human nature to want to do things like that, but I suppose I'm just..different. Also, I see that you're a girl, and I'd like to point out that (with most girls I know) they typically have higher sex drives. I'm not trying to be sexually stereotypical, so I'm sorry if I offended you in any way.

Really? I dunno, I think girls can get laid easier than guys... maybe that leads you to believe that girls have a higher sex drive? But hey, to each his own

[MelissaC]

Hm, well I'm sorry if I puzzled you. I have a tendency to do that to people. And I see what you mean, I just really don't find it to be at all worth it in the end. It's more of the inner pragmatist in me speaking for themselves. I realize it's human nature to want to do things like that, but I suppose I'm just..different. Also, I see that you're a girl, and I'd like to point out that (with most girls I know) they typically have higher sex drives. I'm not trying to be sexually stereotypical, so I'm sorry if I offended you in any way.

Girls in general? I find that hard to believe.

[NegaPanda]

Really? I dunno, I think girls can get laid easier than guys... maybe that leads you to believe that girls have a higher sex drive? But hey, to each his own

I suppose it depends on the girl and it depends upon the guy. Saying that girls in general get laid more is a bit presumptuous.

[NegaPanda]

Girls in general? I find that hard to believe.

I just meant with most girls I know. Not girls in general. I also know plenty of girls who don't care, but the majority do. That's all I was really trying to say.

[NegaPanda]

I'm curious about your perception if you would like to share.

I was/am largely sexually disinterested until some mystical voodoo happens where I find I care about another person's thoughts and have some kind of emotional feedback loop, happens rarely though. But that whole thing seems to go through cycles and doesn't stay consistent.

bethdeth is correct. For me, if I happen to care about a person's thoughts, it typically makes me less attracted to them physically. If I had to guess what makes a relationship a prosperous one, I'd say it's having the ability to empathize with each other. I also think the reason for the feedback loop of emotions is because most people themselves aren't consistent. That's why it doesn't stay consistent itself, if you ask me. I'm sorry if I didn't provide much helpful insight.

[poisonpinkpony]

I think I'm most likely demisexual. I don't really find people sexually attractive but I do appreciate beautiful people. I just want to look at them but I don't have any need to do anything sexual with them. I can't be asexual because there is this one musician I have created quite strong, one-sided emotional bonds through his songwriting and performing, and if he would now mysteriously teleport himself to my bedroom I would do some terribly impure and unmentionable things to him. But all other people are as sexy as potatoes to me.

It's probably quite common for INTJs to be sapiosexuals, I think. I know I am. I'm also attracted to people with beautiful voices.

[Promethea]

I have dated two intjs, and they were slow to get comfortable enough to get intimate, and they were very committed after they got there.

And yeah, someone already pointed out that it probably depends more on the individual than the mbti type. I really don't think that intjs in general are aesexual or think all marriage is always doomed to end up in some kind of catastrophe. And OP -- I'm taking a wild guess that you're a teenager whos parents have a bad marriage.